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How has Covid affected your kids?

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glassbottle55 · 26/01/2026 09:11

I thought my DS aged 13 and and DD aged 11 got through Covid OK and weren't at such tricky ages when it happened - Year 3 and Year 1. But more and more I'm thinking perhaps they were more affected than I thought. They happily default to Covid type days of PJs and TV and it can be hard to get them out for activities. Small things overwhelm them. Perhaps this is normal for the age but it's hard not to think Covid might have had an impact.

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AngelsWithSilverWings · 26/01/2026 10:52

DD became very ill with a non covid related condition during the lockdown and for weeks I couldn't get her in front of a doctor as the GP surgery were not allowing face to face appts.

Took her to A&E one night but they were so rushed and overwhelmed with patients that she was misdiagnosed and sent home with medication that made her even worse.

A week later I was sobbing down the phone to the receptionist as DD was so ill so a doctor called me and agreed to see her. She took one look at her and told me we didn't have time to wait for an ambulance and to drive her to hospital while she phoned ahead to get her admitted. We nearly lost her that night.

She is now 17 and has PTSD from that time and a constant fear of her body failing her. She still has the disease that made her ill and will be dealing with that for the rest of her life.

gamerchick · 26/01/2026 10:54

All of the hand washing, hand sanitiser and other stuff has left my youngest with OCD about germs. He gets a few phone calls therapy and then discharged. It's a merry go round of trying to keep his skin on his hands and not red raw and some actual help for it.

I think a lot of bairns have been left with issues.

Maddy70 · 26/01/2026 11:07

Mine were young adults and it definitely affected my son as he wasn't able to date for quite sometime

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Seadrain · 26/01/2026 11:18

Mine was 2 years old during Covid and is 7 now. I don't see any indication that she was affected by Covid. She's very busy and does lots of activities and is always keen to go out at weekends and holidays.

During lockdown I always made sure we went out to visit parks and do long walks all over town daily. She went back to nursery and toddler classes as soon as we were allowed, so it was only a few months that her routines were affected and she didn't have social contact.

TheLivelyCat · 26/01/2026 11:18

DD 10 now has a lot of health related anxiety now. She will ask if someone is 2 meters away if they are ill.

trappedCatAsleepOnMe · 26/01/2026 11:35

Hard to say and one reason is that here in wales it went on so long and pre and post covid were different places.

DD2 was Y6 all end of year stuff cancelled but school trips didn't come back till end of Y8. DD1 was Y10 her year 10 and 11 exams were all cancelled and I think she'd have done better if she sat them and been better prepared for A-levels - her Y11 prom was cancelled. They had years of entire school year groups being sent home. Many of the groups and activites they did they either aged out of or they never came back - so lots of lost opporties.

They older two had developed habits we had of listening to news - that stopped never come back to same extent and youngets still resists new bulitins - it was so relentlessly negative even we consume less now.

Youngest peer group do use social media to keep in touch post 16 at different places more so than older two. They had no contact in Y6 and never saw a few friends ever again.

Secondary school wasn't in great place pre covid it was so much worse post - DS GCSE were badly hit with poor staff retnention and DD2 stuggled with biazare rules and disurpution and noise leaving her anxious.

Our kids are mostly fine though - unlike some of their friend who developed mental health issues.

Post covid NHS has left scars on my family - the worst care some got has been inhumane and dangerous. Newphew baby at start had mother who was expect to work full time with no childcare and early intervention programs have gone -- even getting his routine injections done was a huge drawn out task. He really struggling but hard to know where he'd be if there had been no covid.

MadisonMarieParksValetta · 26/01/2026 12:27

My youngest still considers Tesco as a day out. Honestly loves the place 😂

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 26/01/2026 13:18

17 year old was just 11 when lockdown happened, in his first year of middle school and independence. The majority of his time at middle school was under some kind of social restriction, if they were in at all. 3 years later he went to high school, and was expected to be a teenager and just hadn’t had that organic social growth. Y12/17 now, he’s beginning to be a bit more social, but still socialises mostly online. It was probably better for the more socially confident kids, or maybe those in sports teams.

Milleroy · 26/01/2026 13:32

One of my kids wants to find a cure for long covid when he grows up! I got long covid from a mild infection in 2022, which obviously impacts my children.

CandiedPrincess · 26/01/2026 13:48

Can't say it affected them. One was a lockdown baby and contrary to media reports - he had no delay, could wipe his arse and use a knife and fork when he started school, and doesn't swipe books either. Others were older late primary and secondary. Zero issues.

mindutopia · 26/01/2026 14:04

I don’t think mine have been affected long term in any significant way. Teens are particularly tricky to engage in family activities. They sound normal to me tbh. Also they have busy weeks at school. Back before we had children, we probably all loved lounging around in our pjs on the sofa watching box sets. I think this perfectly okay some of the time.

canuckup · 26/01/2026 14:08

Why on earth are we still talking about this

Binus · 26/01/2026 14:08

Mine weren't amongst those considered worthy of schooling, and they got the bare minimum offering whilst some others at home got full lessons. I don't blame the school, but the reality is they were disadvantaged compared to others. In the second lockdown, both their classes had about a third of the kids in receiving actual lessons and better ratios.

Upstartled · 26/01/2026 14:12

canuckup · 26/01/2026 14:08

Why on earth are we still talking about this

Why are you posting on a thread on a topic you don't want to talk about?

christmassytimeagain · 26/01/2026 14:14

Mine aren’t in the slightest. The only thing I would say is that emotionally it felt like my year 11’s cohort were socially less advanced. The behaviour they exhibited seemed to be about a year behind where my older kids and their friends were. E.g. year 8 friendship drama happened in year 9 and actually cracking on and taking work properly seriously happened late year 10 rather than early year 10. But no, no real impact

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 26/01/2026 14:16

DD is 20 now. Obviously there was an impact at the time, but no real impact now. If anything, perhaps it makes her value her opportunities a bit more, as she remembers when they were taken away. Definitely no lasting damage.

piglet879 · 26/01/2026 14:16

Mine are 21, 13 and 11 year old twins and I don't think it really had any impact on them really. They're all doing well and have good friends and so on

bookworm14 · 26/01/2026 14:18

My DD (then Reception-Y1) was quite badly affected at the time - anxiety, screaming tantrums, clinginess, refusal to engage with school work, etc. She is now 10 and has largely bounced back, although is still pretty anxious. I won’t forgive those responsible for making it illegal for her to see another child in person for months on end.

TheNightingalesStarling · 26/01/2026 14:19

canuckup · 26/01/2026 14:08

Why on earth are we still talking about this

So that mistakes are learned from so that the next time there's a pandemic the world can do better?

If you are over it... fantastic. Doesnt jean others didn't have problems.

Binus · 26/01/2026 14:23

My friend works in FE and said from the 2021 intake onwards, the intake have been a lot younger in emotional and behavioural terms than they had been pre-covid. Apparently no signs of it reverting back yet.

InfoSecInTheCity · 26/01/2026 14:24

mindutopia · 26/01/2026 14:04

I don’t think mine have been affected long term in any significant way. Teens are particularly tricky to engage in family activities. They sound normal to me tbh. Also they have busy weeks at school. Back before we had children, we probably all loved lounging around in our pjs on the sofa watching box sets. I think this perfectly okay some of the time.

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Agree with this, I was born in the 80s so a teen in the late 90s and resisted family outings, spent all day in PJs watching TV and listening to music and slept as much as humanly possible.

Gazelda · 26/01/2026 14:34

My (current Y13) is far less mature than I’d expect. Her social development was put on hold for a couple of years. She’s an introvert only child, which also has a bearing.
she was just finding her feet in secondary school, where none of her friends transferred to. The interruption in forming friendships was very hard for her to navigate.

GloriousGiftBag · 26/01/2026 14:52

Mine were all affected.

The oldest has had far far less opportunities and things like school trips and residentials even now. They were all cancelled at the end of primary and have taken an age to get back
This has been complicated by the price rises for things like coaches and parents wanting to pay less due to CoL. They also did less plays and concerts and matches at the right age and aged out of lots of things.

Loads of kids locally were taking part in regular clubs and activities and things like parkrun and were stopped and then aged out and never returned when they restarted. I stoll don't understand why parkrun prevented participation for kids.

The youngest had been in school a few years and never been to a class birthday party of the type the older ones went to loads of. A lots of the venues closed down or changed their party offers to much more restricted numbers. And everything became much more expensive even when you could do things again. Again, this is returning now but it was a key thing I felt they all missed out on a early school age.

My middle one only every did a zoom nativity.

The whole thing was weird and continues to impact us.

BogRollBOGOF · 26/01/2026 17:05

Fortunately for DS1, at 9 he'd just been diagnosed with his SENs shortly before the lockdowns.
For DS2 who was 7, it's been so much harder to get his SENs taken seriously, get through waiting lists and reach the point of diagnosis. It has cost him years of targeted interventions. He was just a bit delayed coz covid innit, they're all a bit delayed... except with a ND sibling, and not really catching up to normal expectations despite a switched on parent who works with young people, it is more likely than average that he is ND too.

His cohort lost out on the transition to juniors. They walked out of school as little infants, and by the time normal socialising was legal, they lost that transition to forming more specific friendships and were expected to pick up as juniors. Some children were allowed access to school and contact with their age group, and others were prohibited from age appropriate socialising. As a general cohort, the social skills of that year group are very difficult. They are both immature and childish, but simultaneously excessively exposed to the world online. It's a bad combination, but there is widespread reporting locally that y8 is particularly difficult for their age compared to usual and it is likely that that loss of social transition added to loss of support and resources in education / SEN provision is a part of that pattern. DS comes home moaning about his class; I have a colleague who has taught him/them and agrees that they are very challenging compared to the general issues of education at present.

It's not just Covid lockdown, there's the related side effects on public services, the state of the economy, and increasingly digital childhoods, but the lockdowns both directly and the cost of keeping the economy afloat have had major impacts on the quality of childhood across the cohort. There hasn't been the resourcing to fix the damage done in 2020-21 and disentangle it from other issues.

I have found from working with young people that it hit different age groups in different ways depending on their development stage and transition points. DS1 being y4-5 was at a more stable stage and less impacted. I'm finding the "covid toddlers" very socially young for their age and their parents are very insecure and anxious; likely a legacy of being deprived from toddler groups, forming mum-friendships and lack of access to services such as HVs. They were pushed into support online rather than in person, and we're having more trust issues and parents believing in their child's age-appropriate development and maturity than usual. There has also been the loss of early interventions where public services never caught up on delays in care.

zurigo · 26/01/2026 17:08

Mine were 12 and 8 in 2020 and at this point I'd say they aren't affected at all any more. At the time, they both hated home schooling, missed sport and their friends and found the whole thing boring.

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