In this circumstance, would going off sick be a poor choice?

[BlueOtter9]

To preface this. I’m in a management role that’s under constant scrutiny and I’m near enough burnt out and exhausted. My manager is just a b**ch there’s no other way to describe her and I work with 2 other women exactly like this. I have found that any stick they can find to beat me with. They will do so.

1. ive now resigned. I could no longer take the anxiety, shaking, palpitations at night and the knots in my stomach when I’d drive to work
2. One lady, let’s call her Jessica. Jessica is my manager. She micro manages me. I probably can’t even breathe correctly by her standards. Everything I do. She watches. Everything I ask my team to do. She corrects. She requests the most rediculous deadlines out of me. For example: your team haven’t completed x. Tell them to do it within an hour. I then tell the team. They don’t do it. I then do it for them. I tell her the deadlines too tight. She says it has to be done. I feel incompetent. I tell her she needs to be better at giving me notice. She says I need to be better at telling my team to do things correctly.
3. I have been made aware she tells my team to speak to her immediately if there’s any issues. So they all always over look me. I then end up looking stupid because I’ve missed information
4. a woman on my team forwards all the correspondence I have with her to my line manager and blind copies her into emails.
5. I get spoken to like a child. E.g “who told you to put this in place. See me asap please as this is important and we need to discuss” needless to say I have now stopped seeing her when she clicks her fingers as I am no longer wanting to deal with her.
6. everything I do isn’t good enough. So I could tick EVERY single box that she asks me to do. She’ll then say “yeah but did you do this” and it makes me want to cry because I try so hard and I just sometimes want a, “that was great. Thanks for sorting”
7. I’ve been asked to work with a very very experienced senior leader whose mannerism is so blunt and direct it makes me nervous. I meet with them twice a week. Last meeting I felt so anxious as there was a report I needed to do but my manager hadn’t explained properly what I had to do. So I sit there looking stupid, because I couldn’t do a certain section. The senior leader turns to me and said “blue otter I’m asking you have you read x document before or not” in the most patronising tone you can imagine.
8. Colleague In my dept also just keeps taking info to my line manager so she can berate me in meetings with it.
9. my line manager said the other day “oh you’re moving to x place. Me and the senior leader there go way back. We worked together at x many moons ago” it’s like I can’t escape her poison anywhere I run.
10. I am tried. Like. Really tired. I can’t face these people. I want to just get out and escape. I’m scared it’ll look unprofessional if I go off sick. I went off sick at my last place before I left there, I had an injury but they were not pleased and I’m very scared my manager could just think well she’s useless let me make life hard for her.

Thanks in advance. Sorry it’s a long post

Did you say youve quit? Id defininitrly ring in sick and go off on the sick for a good week ir two op Lifes not meant for this kind 9f stress and pressure

Do you mean going off sick for your notice period? Do you have a job lined up and/or do you need a reference from any of these people?

That's a lot of people to be having problems with- and at your last workplace too? Yes going sick sounds like a bad and dishonest idea.

Sounds like a nightmare! Everyone going straight to your manager or copying her into emails is quite odd. It sounds like there is agreement from your 'team' that they want to undermine you and things have gotten quite toxic. Obviously we only have your side so we don't know whether you've contributed to or created that environment by being a difficult line manager yourself. How have things been in previous roles for you? I'm not trying to kick you when you're down but it's often hard for us to see these things ourselves as we all think of our way of managing as the right way. Sometimes workplaces can be toxic places.

Right now, it sounds like you're being bullied and this workplace is unsurvivable. You're doing the right thing getting out. Your stress levels also sound so high that are you are sick so are justified in taking some off sick. As others asked, do you need a reference or do you have another job already? If you need a reference then I would carefully limit the time off. As you won't be staying there, it will hopefully be easier. Just do what you can and be polite but don't get involved or take things onboard. Just smile, nod and tell her you'll do your best and be clear that it's down to the team now rather than you. Knowing that you're leaving can be the most freeing feeling.

Go off sick until you leave. Life’s too short for this shit.

Another vote to go off sick. It won’t get any better and you are leaving anyway.

Really? The shaking palpitations, anxiety do not sound dishonest to me

Call in sick. How long is your notice period? Do you had a new job, do the need references? I did a 12 week notice period feeling the way you do. I look back now and think why did I put myself through it!!!!

You've resigned.

You self certify now ie from today.
just email and say im unwell.
Get a gp appointment for later this week explain the situation amd how its effecting you.
Get Signed off sick for the duration of your notice
Once the 7 day self cert period is up (Google for details)

Go for walks do yoga, eat well, find some peace.
Never look back...

Check your contract of employment. Some companies include a clause about only paying SSP for notice period sickness absences for exactly this type of situation.

You seem to have a lot of issues with female colleagues. Presently and in the past.

You have resigned so there is no reason for you to be "nice" to them.

How long is your notice?

If they driven you you burn out and having to quit then get signed off for the rest of your notice.

No job is worth your physical and mental health and life is too short to be wasted on toxic people and environments.

This isn't the job for you. You've done the right thing resigning.

I don't think taking sick time (for stress) during your notice period will likely be a problem. Rest and recharge.

Good luck finding a new role that's a better fit.

Would they shorten your notice period instead as things clearly aren’t working out for either of you? I’d probably start with this request making clear you are feeing burned out and stressed when you ask. If they refuse, then you can get signed off with a clear conscience.