This is going to sound absolutely bonkers but..

[Mirrorx]

I have a BF who I see most days. Sometimes only for an hour or two to eat together before going out seperately, or to catch a bit of TV before bed (seperately).

He stayed here last night, so I have seen him today.

He was working until 9pm, and said he'd pop in on his way home. He's always very optimistic about time, so I knew there was a good chance it would be closer to 10pm and I said if so, not to worry and I'd see him tomorrow.

He's just text from the train, as expected to say see you tomorrow.

Which is all fine, tbh I was half hoping for an early night with my book. But it feels a bit odd that there was no "chat" or phonecall, especially when I know he has 40 mins on the train.

As I said I saw him this morning, there's nothing particularly to talk about, I'm not "bothered" as such, but I wonder if it's unusual. Or not?

not unusual, especially if he doesn't often phone from a train. many people don't like having a conversation when everyone else on the train can hear them.

You seem a bit loosey goosey with your arrangements anyway - an hour or two here or there - so I would say not weird for your set up. Plus you had told him not to worry if it was later... so he didn't.

I wouldn’t expect a phone call but maybe a bit more of a text exchange? A bit of chit chat about the day (basically what you’d have done if he’d popped in, I’m assuming) rather than an end of communication for the day. But given what you’ve said in your op it doesn’t sound like that sort of relationship? Spending an hour together to eat before going out separately or watching tv before going to bed separately… it all sounds very, well, separate. So not unusual in the circumstances, no.

Nah he’s probably just tired

He probably thinks you've settled down in bed with your book?

Maybe he’s just tired?

I find it fascinating how the younger generation (sorry, I’m assuming you’re young) constantly text and FaceTime one another - what do they have to talk about? Dh and I send one another texts only if we are saying something specific! We’ve never done the long text/phone call thing (we do live together but even in the early days we didn’t do this).

That's not all we do together, but we do see each other most days, even if we're busy elsewhere. We're were away together all weekend, and will ofter spend a while evening together, but still meet up when possible, even if we're busy elsewhere earlier on e g. we both went to training for our sports on Monday, then met up to watch some more of a box set we've started afterwards.

No we're not young at all, and I agree DH and I wouldn't have text, but he'd have been coming home at the end of the evening, and we'd have had some sort of conversation exchange, even if I was already in bed.