But it would be good to understand why friend is responding the way she does.
She was very good to me after DH died (several years ago now) and brought me into a friendship group that became very important to me. They were active socially and kept me busy when I didn't want to be at home much. Prior to that I'd known her as an aquaintance
A few years later she brought another man into the group. He was a bit of an oddball, sometimes socially excluded and she took him under her wing in the same way she did me.
He took a bit of getting used to, but the more I got to known him the more obvious it became that he was funny, intelligent, kind, just socially awkward. It crept up on me and for more than 2 years we were just friends spending more and more time together, then we became a couple.
Since then friend has become really easy to offend. Both BF and I regularly upset her. Once she didn't speak to us for 3 weeks because I pulled out of something that fell on DH's birthday and couldn't face it - she wasnt left alone, others were going.
She turned up at a venue we were at with friends and left without speaking to anyone because it was too loud (she loves a party normally). I've no idea what was really behind that.
Another time I accepted a lift, leaving her to travel to an event with her DH, which upset her. I genuinely thought I was saving them from picking me up.
BF has stopped drinking and I've moderated a bit. She hates that.
The latest is something BF said on a group chat which she considers rude. It was rude if you were looking for it, but he was clearly joking and historically they've had a no holds barred bantering relationship, mostly driven by her. She's been far ruder about him. Anyway regardless of whether he was at fault, she's left the group chat (which he set up to add her back in after she left last time) and has blocked him on all SM without even talking to him (or me).
I'm done. She was very good to me when I needed it, but I'm coming to see that she enjoys being centre of attention more than she wanted to support me. I suspect one of her issues with "us" is that the bantering relationship the two of them had has lessened since we got together (she's happily married btw).
I never thought I'd be someone to give up a friend for a man, but this doesn't feel like much of a friendship these days and he's been very good for me and supportive of me... I don't know why she's not pleased for us.
But , am I missing something somewhere?.