Four year old struggling to make friends

[Biddybun]

My four year old is finding it really hard to make friends at school. Apart from one very kind little boy the other little girls are excluding her and making her sad. I have tried asking other mums via the WhatsApp group for playdates, and explained the situation but it's heartbreaking to see her so sad. She's a good, caring little girl, not rowdy or spitefulat all, but I dont know how to help her. Any suggestions woukd be welcome.

It's really normal for them not to have close friends at this point and flit between different groups and play by themselves a lot. Have you spoken to her teacher? It might be that there are some points in the day that she doesn't want to play the game the others are playing but does play with kids a lot of the time, but then focuses on the times she feels low. I think you need another viewpoint of what's actually happening.

Talk to the teacher. Where are you getting your information that the others are excluding her? If it's from your 4 year old, you should be aware that "I played with everyone else for most of the day, but there was 5 minutes when I didn't want to play the game and so I ended up on my own" can turn in to "no one plays with me".

Thank you for your suggestions. I have spoken to the teacher. The TA is a neighbour and a good friend, she has told me the circumstances. They have tried introducing her to some of the other children, and as my post, one little boy is kind and friendly. DD is fairly happy with her own company but I am concerned that some of the behavious is now veering towards bullying. This week was the first time I have known her cry because of it. I really appreciate your thoughts, thank you.

Oh poor thing. The staff definitely need to stamp out any actively unpleasant behaviours to give her space to find her way. I hope things are easier for you both soon x