First pregnancy and so emotional

[Littleredstone]

Probably just about every mum on here has felt this with Thier first child but ..... I am not ready.
Had a little melt today because my baby is due next week and it has brought all sorts of issues for the forefront.
I have a dog which I have been trying to get my ex to take back because of the pregnancy since September but they are moving into a new home and the sellers are dragging their feet.
My husband is training to be a teacher and I've been trying to give him as much time as he needs to study but he is worried because of paternity he might not get enough hours for the course.
I started my maternity leave a week earlier and I was hoping to get lots of stuff done in the house but I just find myself watching TV and sleeping.
Throughout the pregnancy I have never really had an appetite but it's completely gone now so I'm struggling to eat or the want to eat because I don't feel hungry but I know this is the most vital time.
I just needed to rant a little on here because I don't have friends I can talk to and our families are divided due to religion.
Along with no sleeping very well due to hip pain during the night I'm not running at 100% and feeling a bit sorry for myself.

All you need for the baby is: a car seat to get them home, a place for them to sleep (basinet) some sleepsuits/vests, nappies, wipes and a feeding plan…. Everything else can be organised after the baby arrives.

Is your DH planning to take paternity leave? He can make his hours up later in the year.

The dog, please either have a plan of who’s going to be walking/feeding it, if you can’t do this then you need to find a temporary home for it.

At your next midwife appointment discuss your appetite with her, she may offer some advice.

Don’t worry!! The final part of pregnancy is miserable. I could barely eat throughout most of mine, was two stone lighter after delivery than when I started. Baby will be getting what they need.

Why do you need to get rid of dog? I had a dog before my baby and we all live together just fine now.

You’ll feel a lot better once baby arrives - all my horrible pregnancy symptoms literally vanished and once I’d recovered from birth things were much easier.

Hopefully you’ll get a nice content baby who sleeps - that’s what happened for and for my two close friends who had babies after I did. Sending you positive energy!

Thank you so much everyone.

I don't drive and my husband hasn't got a car so his parents want to try and help the best they can but I don't really want to call them up when I'm ready to go in.

My husband is muslim ( but quite relaxed about having a dog in the house ) but his parents not so much. So this is the reason why I'm trying to re-home my dog which is painful but his parents won't come in the house until he is gone.

I have alot of what you suggested jamcorrosion and I am excited but just scared. There is so much social media nonsense about " top 10 things the midwife will never tell you " and sweeps and induction it's all a bit mind blowing

Ignore all media. Once you've held your baby, just go with your instinct. Humans have been pro-creating since the dawn of time - Most of it without social media advice.

Best wishes 💐

Ignore absolutely everything you see on social media - I think that’s one of the reasons we all feel so much pressure and/or question every decision when parenting as it’s so so judgemental and so much conflicting advice.

There were lots of things I did when I got into the swing of things that were ‘against the rules’ eg I used to make up 24h worth of formula in bottles and store them in the fridge I didn’t make them on demand.

Ah I see about dog - what a shame though! If it were me I couldn’t do it, can the dog not be locked away when they visit? Or will they be staying over?

The one thing I remember thinking is that I was in no way prepared for how brutal the recovery is from birth. Now this isn’t the case for everyone but it was for me and I’d had so much info thrown at me but none about that!

The only other thing I wish I’d known was that I could refuse being induced - I didn’t have a very nice experience but as a ftm you follow medical advice. But since learnt lots and if I’d known would have refused. I won’t go into detail as not fair on you unless you have anything you want to ask.

i will say I found the newborn stage the easiest out of all ages so far (my DS just turned 3) but I was lucky with a good sleeping baby.

Everyone has a different experience - try not to worry I promise it’s all worth it!