How out of the ordinary is this,

[Jones66]

Hi,

Ive just realised that DH and his haven’t had sex since June. We’re both 45, busy jobs, two teens etc and all of the usual pressures of a busy life. I’d describe our marriage as solid but with room for improvement. We rarely have time alone.

is anyone else in. Similar scenario as in months without sex but with no other issues and in a happy marriage?

are we out of the ordinary?

I suspect it’s quite ordinary, but it’s not great for your marriage. Intimacy helps maintain the connection and that you are more than just good mates. Time to seduce him..,

From what people write on here I’d say it’s unusual but I’m in the same boat. We’re happy and cuddle a lot, always say we love each other but with certain health conditions on both sides, we haven’t been intimate for a couple of years. We’re both ok with it though.

Unusual i would say yes. We are same age plus 3 teen/ young adult children and do it pretty often. I dont understand the no time alone bit. Presumably none of them sleep in your bed anymore? I think thats an excuse and I would see this as a pretty big issue.

The question is do you want to have sex with your husband?
Do you cuddle in bed or on the sofa?

Not sure if it’s ordinary or not. But it’s whether you’re both happy as you are?
my DH and I have been together for 16 years, have sex 2/3 times a week. We also have two children. Go on several date nights a year. We prioritise each other just as much as we prioritise our children.