Hello,
Im looking for some advice from people who have been in similar situations or have done the same.
Im thinking of moving back to my home town which is 40 mins away from where I currently stay. I have an 11 and 6 year old. The 11 year old is in primary 7 so will be starting secondary school after the summer. Hes a very anxious boy whereas my 6 year old daughter is very easy going.
We live with my partner. I split from their dad nearly 5 years ago and in the summer they stopped seeing him. Its a long story but hes not a good man and he was abusing his last partner who he also had a child with. Social work and police got involved with them and she left him. I stopped my kids going and asked him to do some work on himself and we could do supervised visits but long story short my 11 year old stopped wanting to see him and eventually my ex stopped bothering anyway. Hes now with a new woman who lives close by but is not a good person, goes out a lot and parties and isnt good around kids so it's quite evident to me hes still not making good choices. I feel like we are all constantly looking over our shoulder and I like the idea of peace.
I am considering moving back to my home town where my family stay, for a fresh start and to be closer to help with the kids as right now its hard for them to help with the distance.
Im worried about my son moving as its such an awkward age. Also im a self employed cleaner which means ill have to take a big dip in income until I rebuild my client base. My partner works 15 mins away from where we currently live but moving means it adds one extra time, she has to get the train and it works out over £80 a week in train fares which is a bill in itself really.
Im just wondering how peoples kids around my 11 year olds age has coped with moving towns ane schools before and the financial impact if anyone could share their experiences that would be great!