Has anyone successfully desensitised myself themselves from misphonia?

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I've had misophonia for ever - I am usually quite good at coping in terms of removing myself from situations with irritating noises, using breathing and other strategies to calm myself down and rationalise the noise etc.

However, in the last year or two it seems to have got worse. The range of noises that drive me mad has increased. Crucially, it's mostly DH's noises that annoy me - his throat clearing, eating, the way he opens and closes his mouth etc. Over the last couple of months I can't stand to hear him breathing. This is obviously deeply impractical, but I don't know what to do about it. My usual "coping" strategies only work to a degree and, whilst at one level DH is sympathetic, he is also annoyed by my inability to have him near me for any length of time.

I need to find a way to desensitise myself, but I don't know what it is - has anyone successfully managed to do this?

I don’t know about desensitisation but my dd uses loop ear plugs and they’ve been a game changer for her

I divorced my husband who was a noisy eater, there were other reasons for the divorce but my mental health improved after that. This is an extreme solution though 😂

If one person provokes such a visceral negative reaction, maybe the problem is not misphonia? Would you try to desensitise yourself if you felt the same repulsion towards having sex with him? Or his ethical values?

It's not the person that produce the response, it's the noises he makes. When he doesn't make the noises I don't have any response. When I had a cold and it affected my hearing I didn't have any issues for days.

I am fairly sure it is misophonia.

I wouldn't be with him if I didn't share his ethical values, and if I felt revulsion towards having sex with him I wouldn't have sex with him. But if I had general issues about having sex generally, I would want to do something about it. Which I think is the analogy to the situation I have.

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Jane Gregory has lots of good advice

How old are you? I've just gone on HRT after rage buying five different types of headphones and earplugs in the last six months. I've always had misophonia but the ramping up of it has been awful.

The HRT seems to have helped dial it back. A bit.

I'm peri and been on HRT for just over a year. But interested to hear your experience. Definitely worth exploring as a possible cause.

I have misophonia. I have to admit that when XH eating and breathing noises started bothering me, it was the beginning of the end…

We have a TV in for background noise when eating meals.. I take a 10mg sleeping tablet and sleep balm on pulse points or could throughly smother dh for breathing....