Would you speak to the teacher about swearing?

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Not sure if this is pearl clutching to the extreme or rational - this is my first child. There was a boy (A) in year 1, age 5. He came out of school joking around with another boy (B) shouting about his “f**king” coat, swinging it on the air. He kept repeating and shouting the f- word trying to make B laugh. Knowing the two boys I think A was trying to impress another boy B who is widely known as the class bully. A is actually really sweet and he was joking and laughing being the clown so it wasn’t in anger - he was being silly - but I was shocked as I know him and the parents a bit and it’s not like him. Im surprised he knew the word. I’m worried that this sort of behaviour is spreading due to the influence of the other child - there is a history of incidents. My child was on the peripheral though and I felt uncomfortable. A’s mum took him aside and told him off very sternly.

Is speaking the f-word (even in jest) something to raise with the teacher at this age or is this normal?

The mum has already dealt with it so I don't see the need to involve the teacher.

The mum dealt with it so YABFU

You saw it OP, why don’t YOU speak to the boy or his parents?

As his mum spoke to him I don’t feel you need to tell the teacher.
It does seem you are blaming B for As actions - A is accountable for his own actions in this scenario. If B was directly encouraging the behaviour or also swearing then that’s an additional issue.
B may have all sorts of things going on that may be causing him to behave in certain ways, but I don’t think (from what you have posted) that he’s the instigator here.

The first thing my friend’s daughter learned in reception (literally on day one) was to call other girls “f*king b*ches”.
At least in your case a parent is intervening.
There is very little you can do apart from reinforcing at home that this language is not tolerated and will lead to consequences .

Should the mum of A tell the teacher? I’m on good terms with her and i know she’ll bring it up when I next see her as she looked at me and made a face

Why involve the teacher when A's mum was there and dealt with it?

Why tell the teacher her own son was swearing? And that she told him off?

Why would the mum of A tell the teacher her son was swearing after school?!

A dealt with it. Her child was swearing so she told them off. I can't see this has anything to do with the teacher.

Sounds like boy b has been stereotyped, and youre blaming him for bad behaviour of others (child a) when he doesnt seem to have done anything wrong in this situation?