DNR

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Without going into.major detail my mum has been admitted to hospital she has had a blood transfusion yesterday she has a heart condition and diabetes and copd .
She is staying in to be monitored she has severe anemia hence the blood transfusion.
She has been asked about dnr in my presence which she has agreed to but if only in to be monitored is this the norm with a elderly parent ?

It's very usual for elderly people to be asked their DNR status when they come to hospital. Are you saying she has agreed to not be resuscitated in the event of a cardiac arrest, and are you asking if this is normal?

Yes very normal with multiple ailments. If she gets better you can change it again.

very normal and constant if the elderly person doesnt give the right answer. With both my parents, who did not want a DNAR, they were asked daily. When alone. At 2am. When oxygen levels were in the low 80’s. I complained multiple times. Basically the outcome is, if the doctor doesn’t think there is good argument to resuscitate they wont, dnar or not.

what i have been trying to work out is what they call elderly. My mum was 81 when admitted into (and then out of) hopsital when she was asked daily. My dad’s ages at his different hospital stays was early 70’s.

I would think it would be because with someone old who has multiple conditions anything could happen. I don't think it necessarily means they are looking at your mum now and thinking she'll need resuscitating at any moment, but more just that when something does majorly give, it will be time to let her go peacefully.

Yes. Perfectly normal IME.

It should be part of a full discussion around what active treatment your mum wants, and what the ceiling level of care/treatment is.
IV antibiotics, ICU admission, CPR etc.

Yes, this is normal, and it's arguably good practice. As a patient it's probably better to make your wishes known when you're reasonably stable, when you've had time to think about it, than to have the topic introduced for the first time when you're seriously unwell and may not be able to think clearly or express your views.

Thankyou so.much all.that replied it does make sense