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I sometimes feel criticised and made fun of by my friend, I find it upsetting.

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Sunshadows · 07/01/2026 15:27

For context, this is a friend I've known for years, but I'm slightly closer to the other two in our group. We do daytrips and evenings out every few months.

I'm often the one who books tickets/organises transport/calculates who owes what etc. I'm very organised with all this, so no problems there.

BUT, I've often thought I may be dyspraxic, although not been diagnosed. These are things I struggle with -

If I'm in a new place, I'm v likely ro turn the wrong way when coming out of a shop/theatre etc, (I'll quickly realise, and correct myself).

If in an escape room, I'm fine and fairly quick once I've got the concept, but initially it will take me longer.

Sometimes if lots of conversation is happening at once, I may not remember it all. Then later this friend may say 'Oh you were next to So-and-So when she was talking about X, what did she say'? If it's not something I was aware I'd have to remember, I may have been focussing on another conversation. She'll then roll her eyes, saying 'I can't believe you've forgotten'! I hadn't forgotten, I just didn't know!!

Recently I was taking a selfie of us all. I realised a curtain was blocking the shot, so went to reposition.
Again, she got there first with 'OMG, I can't BELIEVE you were about to take a photo like that, move round'!
I said I was about to, but everyone laughed and she just smirked.
At family get-togethers I'm often the one asked to take photos, so I'm perfectly capable!

She makes out I'm scatty but I'm really not, and hate being called it. I've always needed slightly more time if put on the spot.
I'm known at work for being organised and reliable, but I suppose it's a job that involves long projects, making decisions over time, rather than instant reactions.

Any tips on dealing with her? She's generally fun to be around, but I don't like her impatience!

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TeaRoseTallulah · 07/01/2026 15:34

I'd tell her to piss off if it is anything more than gentle teasing.

Gliblet · 07/01/2026 15:49

Options include the more aggressive end of assertive:

"Oh give over Jane, all that shrieking every time you think you can make someone seem small really is tiresome"

The plain ol' assertive:

"Jane, do you realise how unkind you sound when you make a huge fuss about things like this? I don't treat you like that, please try to stop doing it"

Or the passive-aggressive/sarcastic:

"Well I'll just keep eating all my vegetables and praying very hard and maybe one day I'll be perfect JUST LIKE YOU" (or a simple hard stare and a dead flat "thank God you were here, where would we be without you")

Sunshadows · 07/01/2026 17:00

Thank you both. She has a much 'louder' personality than me, so she probably feels she can get away with it.

I'll try to be more assertive! Or I could tell her about Dyspraxia, I doubt she's even heard of it.

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