Learning to let conversations go

[HernanBrooke]

Something I’ve noticed: I replay conversations way more than I used to. Not arguments, just normal interactions where I suddenly worry I sounded careless or distracted or accidentally abrupt.
I know most people probably don’t give it a second thought, but there’s a part of me that wants to smooth over every moment so no one misunderstands me. It’s exhausting, and I don’t remember ever being this tuned in to myself before.
Trying to practice letting things be instead of mentally editing my behaviour like a script.

Following with interest (and sympathy as I’m the same)

I'm very similar! What I do is instead of thinking of all the things I said or did, I try and think about the things the other person said and how little notice I took. The other person you were speaking to would have been way more concerned about how they were coming across than how you were.
It's human nature to feel like we all have a spotlight on ourselves, but when you really think about how little you notice what other people are doing it can help to dim the spotlight a tad!

That way madness lies. You would know if you’d offended or annoyed someone because we all react even if for a split second and we pick up on those micro reactions. Unless you have history of putting your foot in it or in fact being rude and tactless. I m guessing you don’t or you wouldn’t be concerned. Give yourself a break

Aww, I really feel for you, as I spend way too much time doing this. I'm a nervous talker. I talk a lot and very fast, and so there's more opportunity for daftness to emerge from my mouth ifswim. I'd love to know how other people avoid this too.
For what it's worth, I think it's a sign that we're essentially decent people, as we don't want to offend others. I think the reason I over talk is that I fear being misunderstood. If I'm trying to say something kind, I worry people won't have understood my meaning, and then I explain over & over again. I then worry I've really annoyed people. It's a minefield honestly, and I'm in awe of people who only say what they need, and don't think about it afterwards...
I'll watch this thread with interest x

I do this. I started meditating a year or so ago and that helped.

It may not be relevant totally but I read Vital Spark which is based on Jungian psychology and I’ve tried to apply its lessons to my everyday life and it has been life changing in how I perceive my interactions with others and my acceptance of myself and the things I do.