DDs school want to see me and I'm panicking

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Her teacher has emailed that she would like a chat about how she is getting on 2 days into the new term. It's not parents evening as those are next month and booked via the school app - so it's something else that's obviously considered urgent. Dd hasn't mentioned anything.

Does anyone know what sort of thing it could be about. She's in reception so this is the first time I'm dealing with this

I'm worried she isn't OK at school 😔

Parents’s evening isn’t supposed to be when you find out anything new. Nobody on here can advise why they want to chat to you but I guarantee it will be to enable them to give your daughter support that they feel she needs, which can only be a good thing.

How old is she?

She’s in Reception so she’s 4 or 5.

First of all be pleased you have a teacher who is interested in the development of your Dd and wants to talk to you about it.

This is a good thing. Be open to what they may say to you- horrible having to wait but you will know soon and it will be something that you can advise on. You know your Dd best.

Have you or her previously attended preschool ever had any concerns?

I know it sounds daft, but please try not to torture yourself with worry. Whatever it is, it can be dealt with. It’s a really good thing that you’ve got a proactive teacher who knows your daughter and is on the ball!

It’s highly unlikely to be anything of concern on the day 2nd day of school. Try not to worry. It may be a standard thing for new pupils

It’s the 2nd day of the second term. Long enough for the teacher to have spent a term collating any concerns and wanting to discuss them.

Yes sorry I meant 2nd day of term! If she hasn’t had issues before I doubt she suddenly has a serious concern. Teachers don’t tend to build things up before talking to parents, if there was a problem before you’d have been told

Try not to worry, it's probably about something she may be finding difficult at school and maybe stuff to do at home to support her. How has she been in school so far? Does she talk to you about what she's been doing or who she played with?

Thank you all. She is 4. It's come out of the blue to be honest - she had a good first term and at her first parents evening they said she had settled really well. I genuinely thought she was fine - she goes in happily most days and has been invited to a few parties so I've seen her playing happily with her new friends. There was never any concerns at her pre school either. I've got anxiety and I'm prone to catastrophising but now I'm going down a rabbit hole of thinking we've missed something massive with her development.

If it was worth panicking about they would have rang you straight away. And even those calls are usually prefaced with “it’s Miss Smith from school, don’t worry but Tabitha had a bit of a thing at school today and…”

Have you arranged a time and day? Make it asap and then you’ll stop worrying yourself.

You haven’t missed anything and it could be something as simple as being a little extra support with her phonics.

Try not to think it- or just keep telling yourself that whatever it is you will deal with it.