DD isn't transphobic - and won't be coherence into a relationship they don't want!

[itsmeits]

DD started a new high school in September.
DD made new friends at the school.
One friend will call her K tried to start a same sex relationship with DD. DD told K they like them as a friend, she finds boys attractive and is not interested in a relationship with K. K didn't like DD response and asked if DD was homeopathic. DD said no they just like boys, and having a preference doesn't make them homeopathic.

K is now identifying as a boy and is trying to start a 'heterosexual relationship' with DD. DD has said even if K is a boy, they still don't find K attractive and don't want to date K regardless.
K hasn't taken this well and has made out they decided to transition so that K and my DD could be together.

This has freaked DD out. DD now wants nothing to do with K and the friendship.

DD blocked K a few days before Xmas after getting the message of K that declared her undying love for DD and K will find away for them to be together.
Why doesn't DD love her.
DD found it all to over bearing.

The school have called me today and asked me to go in tomorrow regarding my DD bullying K!!!

How the hell do I handle this!
DD is the victim here, she is being stalked and harassed to enter a relationship she doesn't want to and is now being called transphobic because of this.

I have screenshots of all the messages that K has sent. There were messages sent at 4am kicking off to Why DD wasn't answering her phone (parental controls kick in at 9.30pm) K calling DD some horrible names as DD won't date them az a boy or girl.

No doubt about it K needs some help, support and guidance from somewhere.

Homeopathic made me laugh (homophobic I assume). K is being ridiculous but she's young and foolish. Set the school straight, she is the bully here!

I’d go in hard on this. Your DD needs protection and they have a duty of care.

take all your evidence and say you’ll involve the police if the harassment doesn’t stop

Homeopathic?? I just spat my dinner out 😂

Coherence and homeopathic?

it’s all water.

Show school the messages and tell them factually what has happened from DD’s perspective.

remember they’ve only got one side of the story

No need for all the arsehole replies. It’s obviously a typo.

Just go into school and be honest with them, they will no there are 2 sides to every story. Also it’s not homeopathic, it’s homophobic, just so you don’t go staying the wrong one to school.

K has clearly complained to school who need to investigate.

make sure you have the screenshots to show them.

It is irrelevant trans not trans.
K does not have any right to be in relationship with anyone. And is clearly troubled and obsessed.
They teenagers and do not need sexual relationships at this age.

Show the screenshots. Let them know your daughter is being sexually harassed and they need to split them up. She has blocked her and tried to move away and this kid is basically stalking her. Of course she has said she’s buylling her as she can’t take the rejection. I’m sure the school will see it for what it is when you go in. Don’t panic

Go into school asap @itsmeits because K is now angry and will badmouth your DD to all and sundry. In truth no one is entitled to a relationship with your DD, no one should feel forced to be with someone they don't find attractive, girl or boy

@MJagain I am debating on reporting to the police.
@AgnesMcDoo thank you that has made me more level headed they haven't heard DD side yet.
@fashionqueen0123 thank you I hope you are right
@Daleksatemyshed This is what I have told DD

Good luck. Let us know how you get on. Go prepared with print outs of the texts etc

I have printed everything out, told DD to remember we need to tell the facts and try not to get emotional during the meeting.

We will get her side across and see what happens from there.

Good luck

I feel for your daughter. The school should be approaching this in a neutral way and fact finding, not reading you the riot act or causing an escalation.

Your daughter needs safeguarding and in addition so does this other child. It's quite dangerous and futuile to believe you can change sex like that and suddenly be in a heterosexual relationship as a lesbian. This other child needs a dose of reality.

Good luck.

I hope once they see the screen shots they will help to sort this out

How did you get on @itsmeits

Better than I thought.
School were interested in DDs side and the print outs of the messages. Teacher asked if they communicated on online games. DD said no as she only ever plays sims on the PS5 on my account. DD has no social media accounts.
Teachers asked DD if she wanted any friendship with K to which DD said no. I raised my concerns regarding some of Ks behaviours towards DD, and said I fully support DDs choice to not want to be friends.

School rang after lunchtime and said they had spoken with K and there parent. Also a couple of K and DDs friends.

They will be splitting them up where possible, and keeping an eye on them. They want me to tell them if K contacts again. I said I would and I would also be contacted the police for further advice.
Teacher wouldn't say much other than appropriate action was being taken, from the investigation and they were satisfied that K was not a victim of bullying by DD. And no bullying had taken place on school premises.
I asked what was happening regarding Ks behaviours towards DD and again I was met with appropriate action, and as I know due to Ks accusation her parents are also involved and aware of the situation.

DD said K wasn't in after lunch, and she it wasn't the bad day she thought it was going to be.

I will be keeping as close eye as I can

That’s great. So glad you had the evidence to show them. Although today was stressful to start with, in the long run it will have been a good thing as now theyll split them up and hopefully your DD will be left alone! And they know what’s going on.