Hi,
So this has been going on for quite a while now and it's driving me a little insane 😬
I'm 41 with one DC from previous relationship who is 19 and planning on going to uni this year, so I'm potentially going to be an early empty nester very soon. Have been with DW for over a decade now. Around 5 years ago, we were all set to try for a baby, but with a very heavy heart and for various reasons, decided not to go ahead.
In all honesty, I never really made peace with that decision, even though I know it was the right decision for us.
The eagle eyes will have noticed I said my DW and not my DH, so obviously if we had decided to go ahead, we'd have needed to go down the donor route.
I just can't stop thinking about having a baby! I dream about it now and I wake up in tears sometimes when I realise it's not true.
I know this is my last chance hormones taking over my brain, but how do I ignore and just accept that those days are over. I just can't get my head around not having little ones running around the house ever again (until grandchildren...hopefully) I think christmas always makes this feeling worse, for obvious reasons. I can't lie, I do get jealous of my friends who talk about how excited their little ones are waiting for santa etc.
I'm sure many of you can relate, so it would be great to hear from you and would also be great to get some advice from those who came out the other side and are, hopefully, pleased with their decision.
Thank you 😊