I need some advice. My brother (mid 50s, ex professional career ie like doctor or lawyer) is drinking so much he is really ill. He lives with his son and his girlfriend (both early 20s). Three years ago he turned up for Christmas unshaved and with visible tremors. He has been pretty much out of work for 10 years but has an income protection policy and his GP is putting down depression. We tried to support a low drinking lifestyle which lasted a few months but he is 150 miles away. 18 months ago he was hospitalised basically for starvation as he wasn't eating. He needed a zimmer frame for a year. He smokes roll ups and drinks 70 to 120 units a week. He denied he was drinking much to me on phone but we visited. He is estranged from his other children and won't reconcile unless they apologise for some past grievances no one really understands. His son used the phrase alcohol dementia and that is true. He doesn't remember my son has qualified nor his other child has graduated.
Sorry for length.
So he won't listen to any advice. At all. Has no friends no hobbies and nothing will persuade him to meet anyone.
He doesn't have to face financial consequences as he has high income protection.
His son is sort of trapped. Its rent and cost free but there are dependencies and he isn't moving on either.
I think I can do one intervention but not more so it has to work. I was thinking eg son moves out but my brother pays ( he has the money), we get cleaner in and light care worker and someone to help him eat/encourage to wash.
Is that possible? I dont know what to do. Its more for my nephew to be honest. My brother clearly just wants to drink.
I am six years sober myself. My rock bottom was being drunk in Popworld over the age of 50 and realising i had the gene and abstinence was just easier than moderation. He has been hospitalised and needing a zimmer frame, lost his career, x2 wives and his children. But still drinks.
Please any advice...