How do you kindly decline intimacy?

[Chiavennasca]

Last night my DH was trying to initiate and I pretended to sleep. What’s weird is I actually have a much higher sex drive than DH and it’s usually me signalling for us to do it. But yesterday I just wasn’t in the mood for whatever reason, and I realised I’ve never had to know how to decline before with him.

I contemplated actually just saying “I’m not in the mood” but I didn’t want him to feel rejected. Plus, prior to this, we’d been out for a lovely meal together.

What do you do?

Isn’t a headache the traditional “get out clause”? Though if you’re comfortable enough to be intimate with someone, you should be comfortable enough to say you’re just not in the mood.