Holiday with mum - WWYD??

[Talyho]

Morning,

my mum (76) wants to go abroad this summer. She has some mobility issues and can’t really go away without either me or my sister now as she has lost some confidence.

she has suggested that we all ( me, DH and mr 2dc’s, plus mum) go away for a week in the summer to somewhere like Majorca. We can’t really afford a foreign break this year as we’ve prioritised our money elsewhere this year, however mum has offered to pay. She’s very comfortable, so could afford it however I am uncomfortable with that,

I am thinking of letting her pay but then paying her our share back over the next year, monthly, DH says we should accept her offer to pay and then just pay for her to come with us next year?

WWYD?

Hello, my mum paid for my brother and family to go away with her in the summer to Spain. One of the best holidays my mum has ever had, I am delighted that she is using her money to have fun. Your mum is of course free to use her money as she wishes … go, have fun and do not feel guilty!

If she’s comfortable to pay and is offering - I’d accept! She’s going to get something out of it too, if she needs assistance and has lost her confidence to go away alone, by going with all of you it’s enabling her to have a holiday.

If she can afford it let her pay. No guarantee she'll still be fit enough in a years time. And no pockets in a shroud.
She might as well enjoy her money while she can. She will be cutely aware of that!

She’s offered to pay, accept it and enjoy it.
I pay for my DDs and partners to come on hols with me and I love it. They wouldn’t be able to afford it with big mortgages/rent and it gives me pleasure to see them having a good time.

She is your mum and she wants to go and has offered to pay. I would accept. My children arent adults yet but when they are if i am lucky enough to be able buy them a holiday i would be delighted to do so. It would be money well spent spending time watching my family relaxed and enjoying themselves. If its not leaving her short and she wants to i would accept.

Just let her pay. The holiday will need to be focused around her level of mobility so whilst it will be enjoyable it shouldn’t cost you the price of your family holiday. She has funds and wants to do it, let her.

If she is happy to pay, let her. Sounds like she would get so much out of this trip and would relish the opportunity. Just go!

Accept her off go, and hopefully have the best time.

Let her pay but save up so you have spending money once there. As she’s paying it means she gets to choose within reason, just remember it’s for her benefit

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In a normal healthy family dynamic it would be fine to let her pay here.

is that what you have ? Or do you expect there’ll be consequences to accepting her money? Guilt trips, power imbalance etc.

A gift freely given has the potential to benefit you all. But only if that’s what it is.

Let her pay as you’re doing her a favour. I hope it’s something my kids will do for me when I get older.

Unless there's something else going on such as your dm having a history of using money to try and control you, I can't think why you wouldn't accept this as a winning offer for all concerned?
How fabulous for your dc to have lovely holiday memories with their dgm. And think how much joy it would bring your dm.