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NYE - whose home alone?

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SkinnyLatteExtraHotPlease · 31/12/2025 18:28

Just that really, home alone, widowed, son at work, could go to family but chosen not to, this Christmas has been very emotional even though my husband died 4 years ago. I'm angry, we had plans, I was 50.
Happy New Year!

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Sminty2 · 31/12/2025 18:45

My husband died nearly two years ago, in January 24. He was on a ventilator over Christmas and New Year. I used to love this time of year, and maybe I will again one day?

That’s the thing people don’t always realise, they take your joint future with them. Literally, that life you had planned for and dreamed is gone and you are just left in angry, sad limbo.

Our children are adults who have their own lives and have been wonderful but I refuse to be a millstone around them, they grieve too.

I don’t know what will happen in the future but I am determined to make the most of this life and although there are still some days of paralysing sadness, there are good ones too and I am grateful for glimpses of normality.

My NY resolution is to do a zip wire ride. I’m 66 and a bit knackered physically but it’s one thing to look forward to. Put yourself first, and read Richard Cole’s book, The Madness of Grief. Nothing is going to fix this but at least you’ll have something to throw at the wall. ❤️

Ileithyia · 31/12/2025 18:46

I’m so sorry that you’re not able to celebrate as planned. I’m home alone by choice as I love the peace and quiet. Just watching tv and staying awake to pick up my ASD 19 yr old when the pub/party gets overwhelming.

happy new year to you too Flowers

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SkinnyLatteExtraHotPlease · 31/12/2025 19:32

Sminty2 · 31/12/2025 18:45

My husband died nearly two years ago, in January 24. He was on a ventilator over Christmas and New Year. I used to love this time of year, and maybe I will again one day?

That’s the thing people don’t always realise, they take your joint future with them. Literally, that life you had planned for and dreamed is gone and you are just left in angry, sad limbo.

Our children are adults who have their own lives and have been wonderful but I refuse to be a millstone around them, they grieve too.

I don’t know what will happen in the future but I am determined to make the most of this life and although there are still some days of paralysing sadness, there are good ones too and I am grateful for glimpses of normality.

My NY resolution is to do a zip wire ride. I’m 66 and a bit knackered physically but it’s one thing to look forward to. Put yourself first, and read Richard Cole’s book, The Madness of Grief. Nothing is going to fix this but at least you’ll have something to throw at the wall. ❤️

Thank you, you've summed it up perfectly, mine died Jan 8th, so thats looming too...
Will definitely give that book a read.
Here's to a peaceful, positive 2026 x

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