Parental Child abduction

[Nannyogganny]

Did anyone go through this? There seems to be a lot of cases lately. It happened to me when I was a child. I was taken to another country. It was very sad.

Has it happened to anyone else on here?

Did you get back op?
Yes when I was a baby. My mum had taken me on holiday to visit my dad. He said he was taking me for a walk in the pram and then didn’t return with me. He’d taken me to a relatives out in the sticks somewhere. Mum was distraught and agreed to relinquish our passports to him and stay if he brought me back. Apparently I made quite a nuisance of myself screaming the place down so the relative was quite keen to give me back after a couple of days. But my mum and me were trapped there for a good year. He also attempted it again from Britain a few years later. Got a fake passport for my little brother and broke in in the middle of the night to take him. There’s a charity called re unite that help in these circumstances

Happened to my older brother and sister in the 80s. Their dad took them to a commune in a foreign country when they were 2 & 4 instead of returning them after contact .

My mum and grandparents searched for years but couldn’t find them. When he finally came back they were 8/10 and the courts ruled it was in their best interest they stay with their dad as they didn’t know our mum anymore.

@Karmaisaguyonthechiefs very sad. Your poor mum

@Pyjamatimenow as I child I didn’t really get it but now as a mother I cannot imagine the daily pain and torment she must have gone through. It’s deeply traumatic for us all

@Karmaisaguyonthechiefs I’m so sorry

@Pyjamatimenow thanks for sharing. No I didnt get back.

One parent kept me from the other. And the country i was taken to wasnt signed up to the Hague convention against child abduction at the time.

The parent that took me told me that the other parent didnt want me. As is standard in these cases.

When I was an adult myself, I found and went to see my other parent in the other country. I thought it would go well but it didnt. That parent was very damaged when i saw them and couldnt deal with seeing me as an adult. Then two years later they kiled themselves. After they died, I found documents in their belongings showing that they had contacted the police and schools trying to find where I was.

I was actually reading about a similiar case online. The womans name is Amanda Sillars. Her dad took her away from her mum to another country. Amanda found her mum when she was an adult. Her mum couldnt rebond with her as an adult, she couldnt cope with it and killed herself

All very sad and very traumatic. Me and my sibling still struggle from it all

@Pyjamatimenow I feel like I struggle sometimes with having a sense of identity. Do you ever feel like that?