Do you ever miss estranged friends on NYE?

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I do. My best friend growing up. It’s a long story, I won’t bore you with the details. Have thought about her a lot today and can’t help but wonder if I’ve crossed her mind as we used to spend NYE together back in easier times. She’s on MN 🥂 to
old times

I miss people, not just on NYE, but all year. Those who have gone, those who have drifted away and those who came and went.

Absolutely. I miss estranged friends, I miss friends nearby, I miss when my health was better so I could actually enjoy celebrating without having to calculate it all.

I don’t, I believe if someone is meant to be in your life then they are there for the time they are needed.

I have a friend from school that I went to uni with and we were very close for a long time. We did many Hogmanys together. She did something I didn't approve of at all about 14 years ago and now we don't speak. I do miss her though.

Not any of my past friends, they are there for a reason. I like to think I’m v forgiving so if I’m not friends with someone it’s for v good reason

The is post is relevant for me. For the third time a long time friend and I have had a falling out and I do think it is for good this time. I have been thinking about her and whether to tell her some news I have. If we were still in touch I know she'd have been sad and supportive to me. I considered sending a message about end of the year and clearly our friendship and that I wanted to mark it in some way. But I haven't. She didn't reply to my last message and actually it's her that has wronged me but she won't see it that way, so I have walked away. If she ever messaged I'd probably reply but without a meet up to talk things through it won't go anywhere. So maybe it just stops instead.

I don’t think I have any estranged friends.

Not really, there is a friend I am no longer in touch with and while I have fond memories of her and wish her well she grew to be quite a difficult and painful presence in my life and I have no wish to reconnect. She moved overseas years ago when she had effectively burnt her bridges with everyone in her life here, even her own sister. I hope wherever she is she is happy and has found some measure of peace.

Every year on new years eve and boxing day (my birthday) in particular as we often spent those days together but in reality, I think of them both (sisters) very often. I reached out once but it was not welcome.

I am key to the friendship ending and I wish I could change the decision I made which stemmed from insecurity and anxiety after my oldest was born.

Sad times but we learn to live with them.

Yes, Christmas and new year really reminds me of people that are no longer in my life for one reason or another. I actually sent a few messages today. I think if you're thinking of people and they're still alive you should get in touch. Life is so short

Don't know if it's unusual, but I don't have any estranged friends. Am in 60s and have kept friends from each stage of my life.

That said, I desperately miss my two closest friends, both of whom who have died.

yes and not just at Christmas, New Year or birthdays.

Dropped a childhood friend about 15 years ago after a lot of poor behaviour on her part. Also included borrowing money and never repaying in full, trying to cause problems in my marriage and other friendships. Never looked back and never will. Another of our long term friends made the same decision at the same time and we know we did the right thing.

I don't have estranged friends but I do have friends I have walked away from. There was a reason for that and I don't regret it, but I do wonder about them from time to time. Our lives are so different now.

So you do have estranged friends.

Depends what you mean by estranged. I think of estranged in terms of 'cut off', like in the family context. I haven't got any friends I've cut off and wouldn't have anything to do with. Just people I've drifted away from in that they're not part of my every day life, but I'd talk to them if I came across them.

I don’t know if I miss my friend or not. I know I got tired of excusing her doing stuff like forgetting a big birthday of mine and being dropped every time she’s getting her leg over so I didn’t go out of my way to contact her this past year. As a result I didn’t hear from her from January until November and when we did finally meet up she did nothing but scroll on her phone and talk about herself and her boyfriend and didn’t once ask how I was or what I’d been up to. I couldn’t get a word in edgeways all night so I gave up in the end and it rather finished things for me. I miss the fun we used to have, but I’m not about to hang around to be some sort of weird boyfriend substitute for whenever she’s single.

I don't have any estranged friends.