Eureka Moment

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What is yours? Can be anything, major, minor or lighthearted.

Mine was realising I didn’t need to be in a terrible marriage and leaving was possible.

Also, a comfy footstool. Priceless.

Everything you need you have within you.

Mine was realising that my parents feel the same way about me as I do about my own children ( I know now all do but mine definitely do) and it blew my mind

I love this!

Heated under blanket

Dry robe

That I didn't have to take part in the teachers race on Sports Day; I was a grown up and could just say no.

I loathed Sports Day as a kid. My primary school in the 70s just had pupil races. I had no idea that parents races and teachers races were a thing until I started teaching.
It was like relieving awful school memories every year until I had the revelation that nobody could make me take part if I didn't want to do it.

"Nothing changes if nothing changes". It's horribly, teeth-itchingly trite but it's nevertheless true. That saying helped me to realise that if I wanted the bad relationship I was in to change, I had to be the one to instigate that change. So I ended it.

reliving (not relieving)

I hate it when I don't spot a typo in time to edit my posts.

Bravo @HowardTJMoon!

Watching and loving my own kids and realising it could not have been my fault that my mum didn’t love me. The relief!

That you are not responsible for what other people think, say or do - took me a while to accept this but was a game changer for me.

I have chronic kidney disease and just realised life is short. Im giving up my job and going to enjoy myself

What will you do?

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

So simple. So good.

I was listening to the radio yesterday and although ive heard this song so many times, it hit me that I agree with all of it . Particularly the line " i believe your parents did the best job they knew how to do" .

My parents were crap in many ways, i was spoilt in materialistic things and never went without but they were both serious people who struggled to show affection. They loved me but had no idea how to show it with hugs etc. that sentence just made me realise that they were a product of their upbringing.

I believe the sun should never set upon an argument
I believe we place our happiness in other people's hands
I believe that junk food tastes so good because it's bad for you
I believe your parents did the best job they knew how to do
I believe that beauty magazines promote low self esteem
I believe I'm loved when I'm completely by myself alone
I believe in karma, what you give is what you get returned
I believe you can't appreciate real love till you've been burned
I believe the grass is no more greener on the other side
I believe you don't know what you've got until you say goodbye
I believe you can't control or choose your sexuality
I believe that trust is more important than monogamy
I believe your most attractive features are your heart and soul
I believe that family is worth more than money or gold
I believe the struggle for financial freedom is unfair (Is unfair)
I believe the only ones who disagree are millionaires

I had an awful marriage daily and relentless bullying with children working full time / if I told you what my ex put me through it would make your hair stand on end. Despite choosing the puppy together and him walking the dog etc the dog never really liked my ex at all.

I remember my ex husband looking at my dog and sneeringly saying ‘You love that f…ing dog more than me you stupid cow (me)’

• I remember looking at my dog and then at him and found myself saying ‘ You know what. Dog - He causes me no trouble and only joy. He’s always pleased to see me and would defend me. He loves me and supports me and knows when I need him. I love and adore him he is the love of my life along with the children. You are right but it’s not that I just love him, I love the children, I love our home but you have given me nothing but abuse and snide comments for years and actually you are totally and utterly right- I do love him more than you if I even have any love left for you at all. I don’t think I do.’
• I watched the colour drain out of his face and I walked off to the spare room (dog had never been allowed upstairs before) and into the spare room. Dog just followed me straight into spare room and straight into the bed. Divorce soon followed. It was harrowing and he put me through hell but that faithful dog is still with me and snoring gently alongside my husband and I right now, over a decade later.
• My dog loved my ‘new’ husband the day we met on our first date he licked his hand and put his head on his knee as though to say this one.
• My new husband loves him and calls himself Daddy to my dog and I often hear him saying to my dog ‘hello baby boy, how’s daddy’s big boy. You want a tummy rub - anything for Daddy’s special boy’ etc and it makes me smile.

my enlightenment was my dog 🐕 knew before I did that this one was a keeper. My dog was front and centre of our wedding.

@Dartmoorcheffy sorry I don’t know my post quoted you and I can’t delete it

That the only person that can ruin my life is me.
People can do horrible things that impact me but it’s up to me if I want it to ruin my life.
This has had a massive impact on how I deal with situations