Making up for a crappy Christmas - what will you do?

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DD and I had a horrible Christmas Day. DH was in a mood and we tried to pretend we were ok but we weren’t. As a result we have booked a two night spa break in a couple of weeks time in order to get our emotional stability in order.

I'm glad you have booked a spa day. That's a nice thing to look forward to.

It does sound a bit alarming that your husband spoiled Christmas day because he was in a mood, though? That's not healthy adult behaviour. Was it a one off? Is he under a lot of stress?

I didn't have a horrible Christmas at all, but it was all a bit meh. I didn't see my adult children and grandchildren at Christmas, or indeed any of our other family, so I am very much looking forward to our post-Christmas/New Year celebration on Saturday when one of my adult children and my grandchildren, my sisters and a cousin are all coming to lunch.

You and your dd to make up for a rubbish Xmas with her twit of a father?

Bad, abusive people ruin special occasions. A spa day doesn't make up for that.

He sounds like a massive Narcassist, that isn't normal or healthy for you dc. I dont know anyone who is in a vile mood on xmas day.

I know all the problems in my marriage and didn’t want to give to many details. Unfortunately leaving would be very difficult. So many people on MN have been talking about things that went wrong over Christmas that I really just wondered if other people were planning little treats for themselves.

I've written a little list of reflections about what I plan/hope to do differently next year. Have also booked a family day trip for us this Friday to somewhere fun for the kids (rare for us to go to places like that due to costs etc) - I was hosting on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day and felt that consequently I wasn't as present for our children as I'd have liked to be.

Are you and husband going on spa break or your daughter? Sorry you didn’t have a great Christmas.

Theres a difference between something going wrong at Christmas and subjecting yourself and your child to a man like this. A spa day in a few weeks sadly isnt going to help is it, your DD is modelling relationships on this- there is a cost to staying as well as leaving. There are charities and people that can help.

What if he’s in a mood on the spa day?

I presumed DD and OP were going on the spa day- if its DH then....wow.

Gosh, this thread is full
of horrible people! Talk about kick someone when they are down! Totally unnecessary. Enjoy your spa day with your daughter op.

We Plan to start celebrating again as of today. A show today, a nice meal tomorrow and some nice things for the other two days (unknown yet) to try and make uo for Christmas Day struggles.

I read it that it's the op and the husband going on the spa day....

I thought it was OP + daughter? At least hope so!! Spa sounds nice, lovely hot water at a cold time of year.

Just me and grown up daughter. Thank you for caring.