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TheaBrandt1 · 28/12/2025 10:10

The danger zone is year 12. They are not 18 but want to party. It’s really hard to get into a club these days unless you actually are 18. Once they hit 18 it’s great as they just go out and the house party stage is over THANK GOD

MrsMitford3 · 28/12/2025 10:18

Yikes.

Agree with everyone who says do it at a pub.

If you are def having it at your house-which I would not be-you absolutely need to be on the premises-and they know you are.

No spirits
No smoking
Provide lots of stodgy food to soak up the drink.
No one upstairs.
Firm finish time.
Respectful of neighbours-let them know in advance if they might be disturbed

I'd use paper plates and plastic cups and have bin bags strategically placed so they may throw stuff away as they go on.

It sounds like you know most of the kids coming as they are old friends-be very clear that you will call parents if necessary.

DS and friends 100% responsible for the clean up and any damage or breakages.

Good luck

4forksache · 28/12/2025 10:19

I don’t think I would agree to that unless it was in the summer and in the garden. Even the best behaved kids have accidents. You can hire (or buy a cheap large one about £100) marquees I’d even consider hiring a portaloo unless a toilet was easily accessible without traipsing through the house.

Finances allowing, I’d definitely hire a function room.

Salvadoridory · 28/12/2025 10:31

user1492757084 · 28/12/2025 05:21

Gone are the days when kids could drink and trash the house. That is not cool nor safe. Twenty-first birthdays are less fraught with worry of being sued or someone being hurt.

Do be on the premises.
Give out your phone no. to parents.
Register party with the local Police.
Invitation not to be broadcast over social media. You don't want gate crashers.
Invite another couple to help you host.
Make it a NO BYO and strictly NO drugs party.

Host in a way that gives the guests an indication of how they behave.
Dress up smart. Use plates, glasses and walk around offering plates of finger food and, later, cheese toasties, birthday cake and soup/cocoa.
BBQ sausages and chops.
Cordon off sections of the house.
Have start and finish times.

Take car keys off drivers.
Allow guests to bring a sleeping bag and sleep over.
(Pay attention to guests being in a state of mind to be able to consent if they are couples.)

You can not be serving alcohol to minors.
Keep the menu full and the drinks simple.
Hire a drinks waiter (friend) with an RSA to serve non alcoholic punch, mocktails, and alcoholic punch, beers and cider to those with ID.

Your child and their friends don't NEED to be falling over drunk to have a great time.
Ask child about entertainment and decorations.
Go full on with those and the music, games etc.
Say YES to all fun games and music. Make a dance floor and disco ball.

At finish time call off drinks and assist those who are capable to their rides, taxis.
No more alcohol for those staying over.

Cook up a breakfast the next morning.

If you can not host responsibly, hire a function room in a hotel. The bar staff then have to control underage drinking. You could organise shared taxis and parents at pick up time.

Edited

Sattire surely?

Tresd · 28/12/2025 10:33

Hire somewhere. Sod the cost - because the damage could be far far more than room hire. You could either get a side room of a pub or a village/community hall type thing.

countingdowntotheholidays · 28/12/2025 10:50

Do not go round offering soup and cocoa as suggested upthread (this is an 18th not 8th or 80th!)

Ordering in pizzas is the easiest and caters for majority. Do not order too early they will want to drink and socialise when they arrive so get food to soak up booze at 10ish (costly mistake I made was ordering in pizza early to line their stomachs but most had eaten before coming and were intent on drinking/flirting/messing around rather than eating at the start of party)

Shut off doors to rooms out of bounds.

Tell your son it’s direct invitation only and to tell his guests no-one is allowed to tag on.

Hiding upstairs sounds best move, let them get in with it. You can do a nice meal with him another time. Hope he has a great party.

LostittoBostik · 28/12/2025 10:54

I was going to say I’d be more worried about drugs than alcohol. Kids don’t drink much these days. But they do take a lot of ketamine.

What kind of scene is your DC into? What are his friendship group like? I had two close sets of friends at this age - one of them would have been extremely sensible (with maybe one person drinking too much - and that person would probably have been me 🙈) and the other group were absolute carnage. As a parent I wouldn’t want them in my house.

Can you host something in the afternoon? I had a BBQ at 17 that my dad did the grilling for. It was very low key but loads of fun - and parents had a chance to keep an eye on everyone.

LostittoBostik · 28/12/2025 10:55

TheaBrandt1 · 28/12/2025 06:41

Tell him closed group chat invite only.
Remain on premises upstairs.
Do safety check every hour (quick check everyone ok anyone visibly drunk ring their parents to collect them or get kids to do so you want them off your hands asap)
Have a clear time limit 8-12 hard deadline for leaving
Remove everything of value from downstairs this includes clocks on walls (bitter experience)
If you have carpets get carpet protector used by decorators thankfully we have hard floors but floor was filthy as they go in garden and tramp through house
Provide no food whatsoever lots of soft drink some alcohol they will bring
Warn neighbours in your WhatsApp group and confirm it’s supervised and the finish time.

Hosted 3 proper teen parties. Never ever again.

closed group chat invite and YOU are in the chat.

LostittoBostik · 28/12/2025 10:58

dunroamingfornow · 28/12/2025 09:43

You don’t! Book a venue. Unless you are 100% sure only 30 will turn up it’ll very quickly get out of hand. That would mean ensuring a minimum of 30 17-18 year olds tell no one else about the party. Highly unlikely in my opinion. Can’t you book a room in a local pub or function room instead ?

This is a good point - I have just remembered that a bunch of uninvited people (but known individuals to me) drove down to my afternoon bbq 17th pretty much resulting in the end of it.

ha ha haaaa

my poor parents

OP, hire a venue.

NancyJoan · 28/12/2025 11:04

Provide lots of mixers, ice, plastic cups.
Order pizza to arrive at about 9pm.
Decide on your curfew, make sure they have taxis/lifts arranged. At that point, it’s lights on, music off.
quite nice to have something for them to do - poker table, or karaoke, or Just Dance, or whatever is their thing.
If they are big drinkers, buy cheap buckets for vomiters. We have two loos, but I was v glad of the two bright red buckets I bought. Can put the pukers in the garden then.
I would be present, circulating and chatting. I appreciate not all teens will be happy with that, but if you are upstairs with the door shut, you might as well not be there.

patooties · 28/12/2025 11:16

Salvadoridory · 28/12/2025 10:31

Sattire surely?

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I don’t think it is sadly.

Missj25 · 28/12/2025 11:17

Noweighteen · 28/12/2025 04:32

DS wants an 18th birthday party at our house for about 30.
help!
We don’t have family so it would be more a regular teen party, but obviously we’d like it to be special/ easy for him without it getting too overwhelming and us being too interfering. Friend says we should go round twice through the evening with plates of Cornish pasties otherwise leave them. Have to say I’d find that a bit cringe.
we thought we’d hide upstairs in case and they can have downstairs and the garden.
Any tips please? My brain has totally frozen. What food? Veggie option? Do we provide beer and wine? Do we provide a cake? If so do we have a toast and cut it With them all? Do we even say hello? Yikes!
dont even know what time to start it!
visions of teen parties in American films haunt me. Luckily no swimming pool. All tips very welcome indeed!

Hey 🙂.
My daughters 18 th was held here at home In August.
She invited about 22 .
I did the food myself , it was just wedges , chips , cocktail sausages , chicken , Pringles , peanuts , ( that may not be fancy enough for your party ) . They brought their own drinks , I had beer here , some wicked , to be able to offer a drink to people . Ice buckets , disposable plates & glasses .
I decorated the kitchen really nice , back garden has tables & chairs , so they were in & out mingling .
We had a lovely evening 😊.
It began at 6 , was over at 10 , everyone went down to our local where we had the cake there , & the bar had a dj we had organised for the night & the bar was decorated lovely aswel .
Everyone showed & then some 🙂
It went really well thankfully .

ThroughTheRedDoor · 28/12/2025 11:22

How big is the garden? Big enough for a marquee/bell tent? If so, do that. Id also hire a port a loo. (Have done this for my sons 18th).

Set up a drink station. Plastic or paper cups. Ice/picnic boxes full of ice.

Order pizzas. Mostly margarita. One veggie, couple of meat. Place bins around. Have loads of kitchen roll/napkins on hand.

Consider music and some decorations.

Set a cut off time. Or allow sleeping bags and a curfew for music if eveyone is staying over.

Cover indoor carpets with plastic if thats the route out to the garden. Put a rope on the bottom of the stairs closing upstairs off.

Make sure you nab a pizza and stay upstairs!

CharliethecatDebbiethedog · 28/12/2025 12:02

We agreed on pre-drinks at ours for DD’s 18th. We did agree to a house party at first but then had second thoughts.
Although her friends are all lovely and relatively sensible, I remember how my lovely and sensible friends had to scrub vomit out of my mum’s beloved velvet sofa cushions after my 18th birthday…

For DD’s pre-drinks we got a couple of the XL pizzas, some typical buffet foods, a few bottles of spirits and mixers, and 2 fridge packs of beer & cider. Did her cake at home, then all headed into town. Family stayed for one or two pints, then left the “kids” to it.
The only mess left to clean up the next day was DD’s kebab that she dropped on the door step… What a waste.

MayaPinion · 28/12/2025 15:53

user1492757084 · 28/12/2025 05:21

Gone are the days when kids could drink and trash the house. That is not cool nor safe. Twenty-first birthdays are less fraught with worry of being sued or someone being hurt.

Do be on the premises.
Give out your phone no. to parents.
Register party with the local Police.
Invitation not to be broadcast over social media. You don't want gate crashers.
Invite another couple to help you host.
Make it a NO BYO and strictly NO drugs party.

Host in a way that gives the guests an indication of how they behave.
Dress up smart. Use plates, glasses and walk around offering plates of finger food and, later, cheese toasties, birthday cake and soup/cocoa.
BBQ sausages and chops.
Cordon off sections of the house.
Have start and finish times.

Take car keys off drivers.
Allow guests to bring a sleeping bag and sleep over.
(Pay attention to guests being in a state of mind to be able to consent if they are couples.)

You can not be serving alcohol to minors.
Keep the menu full and the drinks simple.
Hire a drinks waiter (friend) with an RSA to serve non alcoholic punch, mocktails, and alcoholic punch, beers and cider to those with ID.

Your child and their friends don't NEED to be falling over drunk to have a great time.
Ask child about entertainment and decorations.
Go full on with those and the music, games etc.
Say YES to all fun games and music. Make a dance floor and disco ball.

At finish time call off drinks and assist those who are capable to their rides, taxis.
No more alcohol for those staying over.

Cook up a breakfast the next morning.

If you can not host responsibly, hire a function room in a hotel. The bar staff then have to control underage drinking. You could organise shared taxis and parents at pick up time.

Edited

This is a Mafia 50th wedding anniversary party. Don’t do this.

TheaBrandt1 · 28/12/2025 17:00

Surely that post is a joke? Offering soup and cocoa?! Absolutely no alcohol?! Games?! For an 18th?! Are you a time traveller from
tbe 1840s?

writingsonthewall · 28/12/2025 17:11

I did one for mine, there were about 25-30 in the end. All very well behaved, I had bought a load of beers and flavoured cider but they all showed up with vodka! I had also provided a load of mixers fortunately. A stack of pizzas arrived about 815 (party was 730-12) so they all at least had food before too much alcohol. It was summer so they were all in the garden, we had warned neighbours and they were all cool especially as I had advised there was a midnight hard stop.

we stayed upstairs until 12 when I went down and said times up. They were all very merry and cheery by then.

BlackCatGoesHome · 28/12/2025 17:15

I've helped my friend host for thirty teens and I held an impromptu party for 22 for her son in my tiny house. We knew all the parents. BYOB, discouraged spirits but we kept circulating, offering soft drinks. Did nibbles and pizza/garlic bread. Held the hair of one being sick, arranged with parents to get them. Ended up dancing with them all and we had a ball on both occasions! Fab times were had!

Alainlechat · 28/12/2025 17:33

We had one in May for about 30, and also could use the garden.

We provided some mixers, nibbles and plastic glasses. Apparently food is not the done thing these days.

We had a rule of no upstairs. We did go out until 11:30. We provided some cheap buckets in case anyone was ill.

Party did finish around 12:30.

Had to mop the floor due to some drink spills in the morning but no harm done.

There was a guess list and no one was allowed in that wasn’t on it.

Really compare to parties in my day it was pretty tame!

NOTANUM · 28/12/2025 17:33

Can only speak for my area but pubs and clubs ID at the door for 18th birthdays so half those invited wouldn’t get in. For that reasons, 18th parties are held at home or not at all.
Has anyone held a party in winter that was confined to the garden and how did it go?

TheCompactPussycat · 28/12/2025 17:49

DD had her 18th at our house. DH and I left them to it for the night and stayed around the corner with friends (although we did walk the dog at 11.30pm and sneak past to check all was well). Her older brother stayed to make sure things were under control.

DD and her boyfriend shopped for food themselves and people brought their own alcohol.

The real question is whether you trust her friends. DD's friends are all pretty well behaved and respectful so I was pretty sure there wouldn't be any trouble.

user98732 · 28/12/2025 18:00

We’ve hosted about eight parties for 17/18/19 year olds now. Generally about 50 people.

rules:
kids are only allowed in the garden and summer house so bring a hoodie. This limits parties to April to September.

Two portaloos. Someone will throw up in one.
we will provide enough alcohol for 3 drinks each. Otherwise bring your own. We provide masses of soft drinks at various drinks stations so they are easily accessible plus big pitchers of water.
no drugs. If you are doing drugs you’re out and I will tell your mother.
nobody who isn’t from school or from the girls school next door. Absolutely no random guests.
i will provide popcorn and crisps. That’s it re food. Eat before you arrive.
party starts at 7.30 and finishes at midnight (when most get Ubers into the city and go clubbing).
nobody is driving home unless I’m certain they haven’t been drinking at all.
we will be in the kitchen and can see what is going on in the garden.

no disasters yet.

TheaBrandt1 · 28/12/2025 19:18

Garden is a good idea to limit damage but is very noisy for neighbours. We have a very large kitchen diner which lends itself to parties so also end up with around 50. Very different to the sweet party described above where they eat food and are home by 10pm. Our parties have been “lit” ( their word).

Dd2 invited a new friend a quiet studious lad who had never been to a teenage party before. He turned up in a silver suit with a box of chocolates danced all night and declared it the best night of his life. So it’s kind of worth it 😄 (DH would disagree!)

Missj25 · 29/12/2025 11:31

TheaBrandt1 · 28/12/2025 19:18

Garden is a good idea to limit damage but is very noisy for neighbours. We have a very large kitchen diner which lends itself to parties so also end up with around 50. Very different to the sweet party described above where they eat food and are home by 10pm. Our parties have been “lit” ( their word).

Dd2 invited a new friend a quiet studious lad who had never been to a teenage party before. He turned up in a silver suit with a box of chocolates danced all night and declared it the best night of his life. So it’s kind of worth it 😄 (DH would disagree!)

Not

Missj25 · 29/12/2025 11:36

TheaBrandt1 · 28/12/2025 19:18

Garden is a good idea to limit damage but is very noisy for neighbours. We have a very large kitchen diner which lends itself to parties so also end up with around 50. Very different to the sweet party described above where they eat food and are home by 10pm. Our parties have been “lit” ( their word).

Dd2 invited a new friend a quiet studious lad who had never been to a teenage party before. He turned up in a silver suit with a box of chocolates danced all night and declared it the best night of his life. So it’s kind of worth it 😄 (DH would disagree!)

Didn’t mean to post Not !
Meant to say not home by 10 , continued with a dj we hired for the night at our local where he has a dance floor out the back of bar .

Agh! How do you host an 18th birthday party?

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