Would child you and your children get on?

[OneUmberJoker]

Basically were you like your children when you were a child?

yes I’ve often thought this. Mine are all boys but I was always friends with the bookish interesting boys even at primary school. Might have ignored DS1 as he is a sporty.

Interesting question
I'm thinking no. I was a wild child, emotions all over the place, bit dramatic. My ds is incredibly calm and laid back.

I've never thought this before. At 15, would I have got on with ds15? Yes I'm pretty sure of it, same taste in books and he's a gentle soul. I might've wanted to join his D&D group but it's all boys so probably couldn't have.

Ds13 I think I'd have been intrigued by, he's clearly got a lot going on in his head that he doesn't show, but is bright and has a cool vibe (in my opinion!)

Not even remotely. DS has autism and is massively different to me both in personality and interests. My brother and DS however are peas in a pod….

I’d of been in awe of her natural confidence and how she will give anything a go!

My ds is a teen and always says he would be friends with teen me. His Spotify age was 50 as he listens to 90s grunge so he's probably right.

Yes and my grandchildren even more

I'd have loved a friend like dd when I was a child. I never really fitted in, but dd is like a kinder version of me, with both our ASD quirks, so I hope we would have been friends.

My daughter is personality wise, identical to me as a child. My thoughts are we would be so similar we'd clash!

Child dd would have thought that child me was a boring nerd.
But young adult dd and adult me get on very well together.

Yes, DS and I are kindred spirits. DH and DS would too but more an 'opposites attract' teen/adult friendship.

My DS1 would have thought I was boring and uncool and we wouldn't have mixed. I would probably have been too scared to even talk to him even though adult me knows he is actually lovely to everyone.

DS2 would probably have been friends with the kind of people I hung around with at school so we probably would have been in the same friend group.

No, she's far cooler than I was. I was a bit of a weird kid

I think so, yes! I was a very laid back child who was happy to go with the flow and would often befriend ‘leaders’ who would happily let me be quiet / fade into the background - my son is the most confident, extroverted 5 year old I know and would be happy bossing me around and would be I overjoyed that I was happily letting him. 😁 I was also a very kind and sympathetic child and my son is the same - can’t stand to see someone upset and is the first one there to pick someone up if they fall down or to give a friend a hug if they’re sad, I would have loved that. But he definitely would have been a tad too hyperactive for me at times!

12 year old me and ds probably wouldn't have been best friends but I think we might have hung around in the same crowd, he's got excellent taste in music and is generally friendly to everyone unless they're unpleasant to him first. We would have been in a lot of the same classes if we had gone to school together as academically we are very similar both in interests and ability

Yes dc1 and 3 are very much like me in looks, personality etc (one my dm cant tell which ones which when she sees photos of us both at a similar age).
Dc2 is opposite but we have a hobby in common and is very outdoorsy as was I.

Yeah. DD is bookish and awkward and highly imaginative - just like me. DS is sweet and kind and happy to chat to anyone. I think we’d have made a happy little trio.

I actually always got on better with “family children” than non-family ones, tbh, because we were all a bit “quirky”.

Youngest son is v like me but we are from such different times and different cultures its hard to call. Would have had no ,understanding of eldest child (asd)

I very much doubt I would have got on with popular, cocky, gobby DS1. We clash horribly now tbh!

DS2 is basically my mini me. Speccy, bookish and autistic. I'm sure we would have been great pals.

DS1 & DS3, yes definitely. They would have made me laugh & they love an audience. I would have been up for DS1’s madcap schemes & I would have joined DS3 on the dance floor at any social event/opportunity. DS2, hmm tricky one. He has ASD & is non verbal. He’s the reason I learned so much about autism as an adult, but whether my more selfish younger self would have given him the time of day? I don’t know, but if I did, we could have enjoyed country walks, swimming, horse riding & sailing together. DS4 probably not. He’s way too introverted & I can’t think how we’d have met, except possibly at a football match. Even then we’d have been supporting different sides!

id be best friends with my eldest. I wouldn’t tolerate my youngest strops.

I think so. DC1 is a teenager in a friendship group of quirky misfits and so was I. She would have fit right in with my teenage friends too. DC2 loves books and spends her time, including school break time, reading, and I was also a child obsessed with books. They are both great kids who I would have liked to be friends with when I was their age.