Why am I always unreasonable?!

[Blinkingbother]

Dd didn’t come home in time to go visit frail elderly relative so I and other kids had to leave without her (she totally got a better offer and has pretended she forgot) and ds has walked mud all through the ground floor I hoovered this morning. But apparently I’m the grinch and thoroughly unreasonable according to dh (who completely freaked out when I took a corner of the steak that he cooked for his lunch without thinking about the rest of us - and the steak wasn’t even bought for him). But yes, I am a demanding banshee apparently. I’d almost got all of Christmas sorted but I’ve now given up. Anyone else having a less than Christmassy time?

Oh & dh also refused to let youngest dc have any of the steak - and I’d bought if for them as they’re anaemic. FFS.

It's so frustrating OP when you're doing all the running around and other people just don't seem to give a s* until things stop happening.

Can you go to the bathroom for some peace?!

Ha! Yes, great minds think alike @LemograssLollipop ,thanks…Ive been sitting in the downstairs loo for about 15mins🙈🤣. Deep breaths….

Your husband sounds like a twat

Nightmare of a Christmas unfolding here too. Now on version 5 of cooking times for tomorrow lunch. BiL coming who is an awful timekeeper. He has form for turning up two hours after the meal time that he's been told and expects us to have waited for him. He also has form for sitting and not eating anything and then gripes because we should have known to make whatever junk food is flavour of the month for him.
Whatever I do, it'll be wrong in someone's book. Ditto for other half. We can't win with their family.

Make what you want for when you want. If he’s late, don’t wait for him. If he moans, tell him he is welcome to leave and make his own dinner, and suggest he gets a watch and/or some manners.

Oh @Newnameshoos - sorry -you have a pretty impossible task keeping your bil happy by the sounds of it 😬!!! My in laws behaved so badly a while ago my other half will never invite them back!…I should prob be grateful!

Slowly becoming the Grinch here too. I've done all the preparation for Christmas, asked him to 2 jobs. His done neither, went out shopping all afternoon and is now out sorting something else out for other people, so I've ended up doing one of them so we actually have some where to sit and eat dinner tomorrow.
I wouldn't mind but apparently I'm the useless one that does nothing. Am so tired I just can't be bothered anymore at least the elf is buggering off tonight so one less job to do.
Haven't even thought about timings, will chuck the turkey in tomorrow morning and figure out the rest at some point depending on oven space.

Oh - I hear you @starmoonsun - dh & I now talking civilly (ish) but he claims complete innocence and it’s my shit attitude that’s the route of all evil 🤷🏼‍♀️…. He has spent all afternoon ‘working’ / surfing the net watching shit😡, yet I’m the useless one… I’ve replaced fun with booze… current situ = youngest upset that dad ate their steak and wouldn’t share, dd not speaking to me because I called out her selfish pretence to get out of being kind to elderly ill rellie & eldest very sensibly gone for a run…. Yay, happy Xmas eve!

Thank you @Blinkingbother & @LittleBitofBread yes we should be more bold and not stand for his nonsense. I think because either his kids or ours have always been there, it's tricky and so nothing is said so we don't address the issue. 19 years and counting, so it's not as though he is an overgrown teenager. He's double that age and should know better.
I'll take extra bets blockers in the morning and get through it again.

Oh God - my Mum (lifelong history of several medical issues, now elderly) told me some years ago that she’d always saved some extra steroids for Xmas… I was horrified at the time, I’m now quite envious!😬🙈