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BF doesn't appear to have considered that we might spend Christmas Day together

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Flowerslamp · 24/12/2025 14:09

We got together just before Christmas last year so this is our first Christmas properly as a couple. He's been excited about this and we've lots ofsoppy romantic things planned over the holidays.

On the day, I'm going to my DPs with adult DC and he's going to his brother's with his parents.

He told me yesterday that I had been invited but he told them I'd be with my family. My parents did invite him too, but by then he'd already told me he was going to DB.

So we never had any discussion about which family to go to etc, he said all along he'd come here in the evening and he'll stay here Christmas Eve (today) so we wake up together.

Maybe I should be annoyed, but he's managed to sort things so everyone's happy without any conflict or anyone feeling pulled in different directions. My DS is cooking for the four of us (me and 2 adult DC) tonight, me and DP will go to midnight mass and we'll go to parkrun together in the morning, then go our seperate ways until the evening.

It all sounds lovely to me and I didn't have to plan anything!

OP posts:
TableRunners · 24/12/2025 14:11

I'm a bit confused. First you were unhappy, but now - you're not?

That's nice, OP. Merry Christmas 🌲

Flowerslamp · 24/12/2025 14:14

No i haven't been unhappy at all, I've been quite happy to go with the flow.

It's only now I realise he basically organised my whole Christmas without consulting me I'm thinking maybe I should have been unhappy 🤣 but I'm not.

OP posts:
Pancakeflipper · 24/12/2025 14:16

I'm confused....
You think you should be annoyed? But you aren't?

To me it sounds a lovely Christmas and I hope you enjoy it.

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MySilentLions · 24/12/2025 14:20

Tsk tsk OP I was here for a bun fight, this is not good enough GrinGrinGrin glad you’re happy.

TableRunners · 24/12/2025 14:21

MySilentLions · 24/12/2025 14:20

Tsk tsk OP I was here for a bun fight, this is not good enough GrinGrinGrin glad you’re happy.

I agree. I feel cheated 😡

GooseyGandalf · 24/12/2025 14:23

You guys need to work on your communication but it’s good that everyone is happy.

Christmas is one of those things where we can have entrenched expectations that we just don’t think to mention because it doesn’t occur to us that there’s another way.

It’s really worth ferreting out those kinds of issues and talking about them because they can become landmines in relationships.

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