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Anyone else feels like the failure of the family?

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Uglyduckling4 · 23/12/2025 22:42

I can't really put my finger on it but we're spending Christmas with my siblings and their family and I can't help but feel inferior.

They absolutely do not make me feel that way, it's just my own insecurities but it makes me feel so sad.

I am an anxious, chaotic mess just glad to survive the juggle of work, kids and life in general, and they just have all their shit together at all times.

Their children are impeccably behaved, help with chores without being asked, teenagers are so good with my young DC and are just so lovely.

Their houses are spotless and organised. They can host Christmas dinner for 20 without an ounce of stress or any mess in the kitchen.

I don't know where I am going wrong. I wish I was like them. Can anyone relate? How can I reframe my mindset? It is not just one sibling as well, it is 3 so I am really the odd one out.

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suburberphobe · 23/12/2025 22:45

Welcome to the club OP.

I have always been made to feel the same and the older I get the less fucks I give about it.

Life is wonderful, doing my own thing.

Uglyduckling4 · 23/12/2025 22:48

suburberphobe · 23/12/2025 22:45

Welcome to the club OP.

I have always been made to feel the same and the older I get the less fucks I give about it.

Life is wonderful, doing my own thing.

Thank you I will try to channel your 'don't give a fuck' attitude. Sorry you were made to feel this way too, it's bad enough when it's just my own thinking and I can semi-kid myself that they don't notice 😑

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