Hi everyone, I don’t know where else to turn to. We have an almost 2 year old daughter and my husband moved out 6 months ago. He hasn’t been diagnosed with autism but our couples therapist noticed traits and suggested he seeks support and assessment with a specialist if it’s something he wants to do. Long story short, we’ve been together almost 15 years and last year he told me he’s been feeling dead inside for years, he’s got a high pressure job and he really struggles with being around family and people he cares about as he feels numbs can’t feel joy so he feels extreme shame that he’s not feeling the emotions he believes a husband and dad should feel and he doesn’t know why. He also has a constant background warning/feeling of needing to escape which he has had since childhood and only disappears when he’s alone. Basically, we don’t know who he’s supposed to see to get the right support as his GP repeatedly said if he’s still working full time then going down the autism assessment route won’t be helpful! Our couples therapist isn’t specialised in neurodivergence either and wasn’t able to recommend the right support either so we both feel deflated and unsupported and don’t know where to turn basically. We had a look at private but it’s a minefield trying to figure out who the right person is that can give the right support as both of us have realised couples counselling actually made things worse for him because it focuses on getting him to speak his inner emotions out loud etc
anyone heard of or been through anything similar?