Love at an older age

[ClawsandEffect]

I'm older. Not retirement age but almost. I've had 3 LTR in my life and can say, hand on heart, I have no inclination to have another relationship, ever.

I know many don't feel this way though and just wonder HOW you maintain the interest in love / relationships etc as an older person? I know my CBA attitude isn't universal so am interested in the perspectives of others.

I'm in my second major longterm relationship at 55. I have to say that its a fundamentally different feeling that when I when I met my first wife in my mid 20s. My current relationship is more practical than romantic. Its no very romantic as my partner isn't that way inclined....her words. It almost embarasses her if I embark on a little romance.

Anyway, its a more complex relationship. Our love isn't that deep but we do need each other in our lives. That's how it'll probably stay.

I think a lot of it comes down to whether a relationship adds something new to your life rather than repeating old patterns. As you get older, you know yourself better, your boundaries are clearer, and the tolerance for compromise is lower. For some people that makes love feel unnecessary; for others it makes it more meaningful because they’re choosing it, not needing it. Neither outlook is wrong.