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Could I do with an assessment?

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TinselTina · 20/12/2025 21:46

Im not asking anyone to diagnosis me but I am considering an assessment. Looking back i think I snow signs of being NT.
I was an odd child apparently. Lived in my own world, talked to myself, blurted out whatever I wanted to say. I think I was very intense in friendships. As I got older I suppose it got a bit better but I still don't feel quite right. Ive been on antidepressants for 20 years. I cant cope without them im overwhelmed and have breakdowns. I struggle with relationships. Like sometimes I feel like im watching everyone in life and im outside.

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Idontknowwhy15 · 20/12/2025 21:48

There’s no harm in looking into it. A diagnosis won’t be a miracle cure though, particularly if it’s autism for which there is no treatment.

i did find it interesting to find out why I am the way I am though.

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TinselTina · 20/12/2025 21:49

Idontknowwhy15 · 20/12/2025 21:48

There’s no harm in looking into it. A diagnosis won’t be a miracle cure though, particularly if it’s autism for which there is no treatment.

i did find it interesting to find out why I am the way I am though.

Yeah I feel the same way. Im quite a literal person. Its odd because I've done well in other areas of life.le education and a decent job

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TinselTina · 20/12/2025 22:12

People comment on how I remember everything aswell!

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PrincessofWells · 20/12/2025 22:15

I think it would help you to reach a better understanding of yourself, and that can only be a good thing. It also might help by giving you some validation - that it's fine to be different and why and how you are different. That way it may make it easier to understand neuro typical people.

ProfessorRizz · 21/12/2025 07:21

Do you have children? They are likely to inherit ASD if you have it; it might be worth knowing so that you can get them help should they need it.

DH is on anti-depressants, but I think he’d do much better on meds for ADHD (no diagnosis but strong suspicion!).

vanillalattes · 21/12/2025 08:29

Go and speak to your GP and ask about “right to choose”. I was in your shoes this time last year and now have a diagnosis of autism at the age of 37.

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TinselTina · 21/12/2025 08:52

ProfessorRizz · 21/12/2025 07:21

Do you have children? They are likely to inherit ASD if you have it; it might be worth knowing so that you can get them help should they need it.

DH is on anti-depressants, but I think he’d do much better on meds for ADHD (no diagnosis but strong suspicion!).

My child is NT

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Lougle · 21/12/2025 18:20

I would say that's similar to me and I have ASD and ADHD. All of my children have ASD +/- ADHD and they all 3 are very different. One in particular we all thought was NT but highly strung until she got to mid secondary age and it became clear that she was ND.

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TinselTina · 22/12/2025 08:31

Thank you. My child shows no signs at present. I wonder if im more adhd ? I have had counselling but it was that good. I know im avoidant and have lots of empathy. Probably too much at times.

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TinselTina · 23/12/2025 21:42

Im going to look into an assessment in the new year. Ive Googled right to choose so ill start there.

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