Do you know any people who are inwardly focused nearly all of the time, unless something really piques their attention? I was just wondering how common this is.
A family member (mid 50s) does this and also never answers a question in a straightforward manner. When I talk about something, they don’t seem to really listen but then, with lightning speed, focus on one particular word or aspect of what I said and respond in a slightly left-field way.
Another everyday example is that if a family pet is doing something sweet and I point it out, they might briefly say “yes, cute,” but then instantly move the topic on, even though I know they adore the pet. As if they are. unable to be in the moment and share it together.
They also don’t seem able to say anything that sounds genuine or mildly empathetic, for example if there is a health worry or there has been a death of a loved one. When they talk, they waffle a lot. It’s almost impossible to have an ordinary two-way conversation. I find this hurtful, confusing and frustrating.