Year 7 girls and friendship issues

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DD started secondary school and is trying to make new friends, she’s putting herself out there and trying to talk and get to know other kids. She’s autistic and very single minded and literal

Shes literally “dropped” her best friend from primary school, without a second thought. She was feeling suffocated by her, and like she couldn’t be with her new friends. There’s no compromise with her, it’s all or nothing

Am I making it worse by getting involved in all this, I feel like she’s being cruel 😫

It felt like years 7 and 8 where the toughest re friendships in terms of fall outs/how they treated eachother, and I personally found it hard but there was nothing I could do and they hopefully they all learnt from that. A year or so on, I was actually glad DD wasn't friends with one or two!

By Year 9 DD was part of two friendships groups, also met another girl who joined one of them a year or so later. She's actually out tonight with one of the groups (now aged 24) despite one living in Plymouth and one in Northumberand, and has been to visit the ones that moved away.

I've got a year 9 and a year 7, girls who are chalk and cheese. Dd1 did have some struggles but now seems settled with a nice group of girls, and seems to chat with lots of others who she probably wouldn't see out of school.

Dd2, September birthday so one of the older ones, seems to be boss of a big group of girls😂I expect some will drop out of favour at some point, as friendships morph and develop.

My main thing is advising if they ask but mainly just letting them crack on. Eldest has been upset before but just by things that happen to most girls, I'm teaching resilience and confidence instead of interfering, although would if any bullying was involved

Girls' friendships can be complex, encouragement and a listening ear are good preparation

I’m trying to guide without being overbearing but it’s hard 🫣