A few weeks ago I realized I was working 2 overlapping shifts at work,I tried finding coverage but no one got back to me so I asked my boss. I was on the schedule to work A and B shift. I found someone for B the same time my boss found someone for A. So I was then only going to be working 4 hours instead of 12 and my husband went ballistic saying we weren't taking the kids to this celebration and I better fix it so I am working a normal shift so I did and picked up someone else's 12 hour shift(we need the money) so I told him all this the night before despite him screaming at me. Then the day we were supposed to go somewhere he was like I am sick so you better not be working 12 hours,so then I had to contact my boss and be like I have to work the 4 hours and not 12. Then my husband tells me if my boss was a guy I would have been fired because he would have fired me because I sound whiny etc.
But now hes telling me I was giving my shifts away and how I will have to start working 100 hours a month because we cant afford groceries. This coming from someone who quit a job working less hours because his boss wanted him to work earlier in the morning and he didnt feel like getting up.
Then last night he bought stuff and one package of erasers accidently opened in the front when he picked it up(easy fix to me,get some tape and tape the front and pull the erasers from the back) tell me why this man then decides to slam the package into the bag busting it opening screaming how no one is getting * christmas now and hes not wrapping anything and hes done hes going to sell the house and the kids can come with him or not.
This man literally screamed over the smallest things(which aren't small to him by the way obviously). His behavior is absolutely ridiculous hes in his late 40s screaming at his own children. Demanding i work 100 hours a month at work even though I am only on call.
I want to know what resources are out there for me? Also hes not the civil type,he has threatened before to call the cops on me if I took our joint car to work instead of solving an argument immediately when I was going to be late for work,he has threatened to change the locks on me as well(hes the only one with his name on the house),and hes also said he will get a free lawyer(he used to work with them) and that I will be the one to pay child support and not have custody because my 2 sisters didn't have their kids and I didn't grow up with my mom.
I need opinions or insight please
This is also a frequently occuring thing I am always walking on eggshells because of him. Also our youngest child is very defiant says no always has to be first and will scream and scream an he will just spank them and scream at them to shut up. a few weeks ago he packed a bag to leave because of how our youngest was acting. I truly cant do this anymore but i literally have no one,no money and i cant just up and take my kids out of school and leave my job. I work a 12 hour shift tomorrow and have to push this aside even though its really effecting me and i will be worried if the kids are behaving and he will cancel christmas again