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Love of your life?

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ClawsandEffect · 17/12/2025 11:53

Do we all have one?

And did you all know when you found yours?

For me I knew when I'd found it. But no, it didn't last forever.

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Arraminta · 17/12/2025 20:39

Yes, we've been together for 34 years and I've never stopped falling in love with him. We're both quite firey and very strong willed, so our relationship has never been bland. But I'd give him my heart's blood in a cup to drink if he asked it of me, and I know he'd do the same for me.

What we have is rare and I do know how lucky I am.

ItLooksLikeAFingernail · 17/12/2025 20:45

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 17/12/2025 20:28

I found mine but he left me for his.

Same x

ItLooksLikeAFingernail · 17/12/2025 20:46

SusanSHelit · 17/12/2025 12:35

I thought I'd found mine but he turned out to not be who I thought he was.

My great aunt and uncle were absolutely the love of each others lives though. Met in primary school, started dating in early teens, married at 21, two children by 26.

Both went on to have to have good professions, he was a dentist and she was an actuary. He was very supportive of her perusing a career even after having children, despite it being the 1960s/70s. He was her number one supporter in everything though, and she was his.

Even after 60 years of marriage they would light each other up, you could almost see them as their young courting selves when they were together. Absolutely kindred spirits, best friends and devoted to each other.

She had a pretty severe stroke a few years ago and he cared for her night and day despite being in his 80s. It took its toll physically but he did a fantastic job and wouldn't countenance anyone else doing it. He stayed by her side for every appointment and hospital admission and physio therapy session and cheered her on, cheered her up and generally had her back. They were still totally besotted with each other. She adored him as much as he adored her.

She had another stroke shortly after the first and passed away. He was dead just over a week later, classic broken heart syndrome.

We did ended up burying them together in a double coffin. They are holding hands and always will be, just like they promised to on their wedding day. A love like theirs I really think is very very rare, and very very special. If there's such a thing as reincarnation I think they'll find each other in every life.

So beautiful x

FourChimneys · 17/12/2025 20:54

I've been married to mine for almost 35 years. He makes my life immeasurably better and I like to think I do the same for his.

DarkEyedSailor · 17/12/2025 21:00

I've had one man who I loved properly. He left and is married to someone else.
I can't see it happening again.

Laska2Meryls · 17/12/2025 21:01

I still think and dream of mine regularly over 45 years later .. We were together 7 years and I really thought it would be for life ... Sadly I wasn't his though, it seems and I don't think I ever really got over him .... Married twice since, 1st was definitely on rebound and a huge mistake ( apart from my child who definitely wasn't) and then 2nd time many years later to someone who really cares for me even now in my late 60s ( and me for him) and who I'd never leave.. But it remains that the love of my life will always be the one from all those years ago ...

PickleJelly · 17/12/2025 21:02

I am married to mine. For me, he is the complete package and I feel blessed every day that we are married. I had other lovely relationships before, but they weren't the same.
I hope that we go on to have a successful and incredibly long marriage like some of the other posters on this thread.

Arlanymor · 17/12/2025 21:03

I did and still feel that way about him and I know he feels the same way about me. However he was separated and his ex moved his children to the other side of the world - he couldn't live without his kids so went back to the relationship for their sake. People say that the most painful thing in the world is unrequited love - it's not. It's loving someone more than anything in the world and them feeling the same about you, but you're not able to be together.

AllSoComplicated · 17/12/2025 21:08

I'm not sure we all have one. I think it's luck for want of a better word. I probably had mine when I was too young and vice versa and we let each other go. But maybe he met his after me. I don't know. I married someone else years later and he wasn't who I thought and it ended badly.

I fell in love again later in life and that didn't last either.

So I don't know. I guess I've loved and lost.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/12/2025 21:09

Not to be that woman but I think its my dd 🥰

GiddyDog · 17/12/2025 21:10

@SusanSHelit during COVID I cared for a lady in her 80's, her husband couldn't visit due to restrictions at the time but would call every day, by this time she was quite confused but would light up at hearing his voice. He knew her routines inside out and was very anxious that everything be done just so to make sure she was comfortable. From her clothes, food, what time she liked to wake up, how she liked her tea, her favourite music, all that mattered to him was that she was happy.
Turned out my they lived near my PIL and after she went home I would often see them out together and I've never seen devotion like it.
Both have since sadly passed away but I think of them from time to time.

FettleOfKish · 17/12/2025 21:11

Yes, I married him. I’d spent 20 years dating and in various relationships including a short disastrous marriage before I met him, but I knew right away that he was my one. 3 months after meeting we moved in together ‘for lockdown’ and have never looked back. Married 3 years now with a toddler and I don’t know what I’d do without him (to the degree that I sometimes panic in the middle of the night about anything happening to him).

Myfridgeiscool · 17/12/2025 21:18

I was going to describe someone from years ago who I really loved. I had to end it because he loved himself more than anyone else.
The love of my life is my first dog!

AllSoComplicated · 17/12/2025 21:19

mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/12/2025 21:09

Not to be that woman but I think its my dd 🥰

I get that. I feel lucky in other loves. I have amazing life long friendships and my son is the best person I know.

JustMe2026 · 17/12/2025 21:33

Went to school together I knew he was for me and I him married at 18 and 10 kids later now 41 and still adore his grumpy face haha. But no everything from best friend,lover,confidant I love my man and feel very loved every day. Blessed to be able to communicate well and this has ended up with very happy children and chatterboxes lol

Springflowersyay · 17/12/2025 21:35

I am married and I love my husband. But honestly, I feel my dog is the love of my life! We have a wonderful bond and genuine 2 way communication. I adore him!

mondaytosunday · 17/12/2025 21:43

Yes but sadly he passed away at 51. I haven’t been with anyone since (I was 47 then, I’m 63 now).

mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/12/2025 21:44

AllSoComplicated · 17/12/2025 21:19

I get that. I feel lucky in other loves. I have amazing life long friendships and my son is the best person I know.

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I agree, love comes in different forms and touches you in different ways.

I think i truly loved my sister, but it wasnt requited and we're estranged now. But I dont feel a huge sense of loss really, maybe because my dd is here or maybe i'm in denial 🤷‍♀️

I guess to love and have lost it isnt a bad thing

As for romantic love, nope never. Ive cared for men but never been in love. Maybe one day... xx

blankcanvas3 · 17/12/2025 21:49

Met him when I was 15 and we’ve been inseparable ever since. I don’t necessarily believe there is one great love in everybody’s lives, I think you can have several. But I will be keeping mine!

shhblackbag · 17/12/2025 21:54

Yes, but it wasn't the right time. I know he's the love of my life because I'm okay with it as long as I know that he's happy. It sounds so cliché, but this time it's true.

DinoLil · 17/12/2025 22:08

Romantic love or otherwise? A home, a place, a pet, a child??

A favourite food or a drink?

Oh, a car! A love of your life car. Or boat, cafe, book, beach?

mynameiscalypso · 17/12/2025 22:14

I think before I had DS, I would have said that my DH is the love of my life (although, like a PP, I think that there could have been other people who would also have been the love of my life). Since having my DS though, it’s made me realise the limits of the love for my DH. Not in a bad way, per se, and my love for my DH hasn’t changed. But it’s just so inadequate compared to the love I feel for DS.

Fatrascal27 · 17/12/2025 22:15

Ah..I’m happily married but still yearn for my teenage boyfriend. We weren’t together that long and I wasn’t very nice to him actually which meant he went off with someone else. He married her actually. Our paths never cross but have seen him on social media. I think of him very fondly. It was the first time I had felt those feelings and it was very powerful.

I hope he thinks of me sometimes.

TomatoSandwiches · 17/12/2025 22:22

The love of my life is my nan, I've been besotted with her since I was born and if there's anything like reincarnation I want to be with her in every life I have.

ForestForever · 17/12/2025 22:32

After years of terrible relationships that left me with a lot of trauma and horrible mental baggage I felt like I was destined to watch everyone else with the love of their lives but never find mine - but then I did almost 5 years ago now.

People may say that 5 years is nothing in the grand scheme of things but I go sleep at night feeling at absolute peace and I know I’m completely safe. That is something I never experienced before and I had no idea existed. I can’t quite describe the feeling of pure warmth, comfort and joy that he brings and I wish I could just bottle it up and give it out to everyone who needs it. I know that he adores me and will support me no matter what and he knows I will do the same for him.

He hasn’t once raised his voice at me and wouldn’t ever dream of calling me a single name or being confrontational or nasty in any way at all. He is genuinely the most kind-hearted man and I thank my lucky stars every day. We still talk for hours and laugh like in the early days that we met. No matter how I feel about myself he always makes me feel like the most beautiful woman to ever walk the earth. I know I’ll love him until my last breath.

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