I reported something to the police and am now worried

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A friend of mine is very vulnerable through illness and mental health issues but has capacity to make decisions. She's currently got carers coming in. The only people she sees in real life are me and her sister but she's got several online friends some dodgy ones. There's a couple of women she chats with online too who are normal.

One of these is a disgusting man who sends pictures of himself in adult nappies, naked selfies and videos of himself masturbating in the nude. She's not shared that information with me but I've seen them over her shoulder on her phone. He's married and says he's going to wait until his wife goes out and then they can video call.

I know about this guy and asked her what she's messing around with a married man for but she thinks it's ok because they haven't met irl. She tells me they're just friends. As far as she knows I've not seen these pictures but I have and I've told the police. I'm worried about her well-being and I know if I ask she's going to lie and say nothing is going on they're just chatting but they're not.

I know I've stuck my oar in but can I get into trouble? The police are going to do a welfare check because there's also an African she's in touch with who's asked for money in the past. I thought the guy was committing a crime but if she's not complaining then he's not. I hate the disgusting foul creature and wish he'd stop because she's vulnerable but I've made a mess of it now.

I think you did the right thing.

OP. This is a tough situation as you think your friend is vulnerable.

But from what I know, sending nudes to someone that is engaging in the conversation, in a nappy or not, is not illegal. Unless he is extorting money from her, I don’t necessarily think any crimes will be found here.

The only trouble you can get in here is with your friend.

This is more of a social services issue than one for the police I would suggest but it’s good that they’re going to check on her and they will make the necessary referrals. You don’t need to worry, you’ve acted with good intentions for the benefit of your vulnerable friend and you won’t be in any trouble but ultimately if she has capacity then she is free to make her own decisions, regardless of whether you think they might be mistakes.

You won't get in trouble with the police, though there's little they can really do about the situation with the nappy man. What he's doing may be gross but it's not illegal.

That said, the police know the difference between well meaning but misguided, and malicious. You fall into the first camp.

Does she have any adult social services involvement?

No I don't think she does. I'm worried she'll work out it's me but I don't know who else she's told.

He sent her a pair of pants through the post with a picture of his face on and "this ass belongs to" and an arrow pointing to his ugly mug. I saw them but haven't mentioned it.

She has told you they are just friends and as far as she knows, you believe her and haven’t seen the photos so you don’t need to tell her that it was you who reported this if you don’t want to. Try not to worry.

This is more of a social services issue than one for the police I would suggest but it’s good that they’re going to check on her and they will make the necessary referrals.

I agree, I would get in touch with adult SS and refer her to the Safeguarding team. It will probably be that as she has capacity there is very little they can do but at least you will have reported your concerns.

I would take a photo of them and send it to his wife. That should stop him. So gross

So he knows her address.

You have done the right thing.
Or, at the very least, you have done nothing wrong in handing this situation over to people who know what can or can't be done.
As for the fucking worm doing this.....I hope his wife finds out and leaves him.

He's on Instagram and Twitter following women like Claudia Winkleman and Tess Daly and making comments about their legs and bum. Also following only fans people. He's a psycho.

Bit of an update. Police say the woman has to complain herself about him. They can do a welfare check but that's all. It's more about the man than her though. I've managed to find out his address but I don't know if that's information I can use or how. He's sent more of the same pictures, videos, underwear and messages.