I’d like to do the deed with someone new, but scared about mum body

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I otherwise feel very beautiful/hot. I’ll say so as it’s anonymous and I don’t think that’s bad.

But, new flame is 23 and I have lots of stretch marks despite being physically fit, a pouch tummy when naked

I also have skin tags on anus (going to speak to GP about NHS removal but, been told by other people they actually remove them and leave the wound open! Ouch)

The new flame is very attractive. Gym guy.

Is this a normal hang up? I feel really worried he will have sex with me and never want to fancy me again after he sees it all.

After 3 pregnancies, my body is just not the same

Bumping

If it really bothers you go to the gym yourself lift heavy weights, and get a gym body. I’m in 50s with three kids and once i start lifting heavy and eating less (and yes WLI) I’m ripped with a six pack.

I do go to the gym.

I don’t want a six pack though. I like being a curvy size 10/12 hourglass with enough body fat to keep my big boobs

Right, and yes my boobs have gone along with the lower stomach fat. So stop worrying, sounds like you are happy with your body.

I am. But there’s bits that either can’t be changed or are very painful to correct but wondering if I should at least have the skin tags surgery… then I’d feel better I suppose

If you decide to DTD with this person or a different person, it will naturally be a slightly nervous experience being seen naked by that person for the first time.
He will think what he thinks, nothing you can do about that.
Have fun enjoy yourself.

Try to remember he may be nervous from the point of view you are older, potentially more experienced.

How old are you OP?

28

I do understand your reservations, I really do. But you are who you are. If the things you describe turn him off then honestly he’s not worth having a relationship with. I’d have the conversation with him, tell him what you’ve told us. Better before you do the deed I’d say. If it turns him off, then he’s too immature to be a suitable partner for you.

Think I already know the answer. But is it reasonable not to say anything and reveal it when we do the deed? Is it not false advertisement as I just look toned and hourglass, nice face

But have anal cherries and my stomach is covered in awful brown stretch marks

Totally understand but I'm in my 50s and not had any sort of physical relationship in 7 years.

Not very helpful but wanted to know your not the only one.

Think the “anal cherries” would have to be treated privately, might be expensive.

I’ve spoken to an NHS surgeon before and they are happy to do it. But explained the incisions are just left open as they can’t stitch that area (it’s extremely painful)

Can you do something not as adventurous as to reveal the cherries?

He knows youve had kids and he’ll be so excited to see you naked he’s not going to focus on those things that are worrying you.

Are they actually the size of cherries?

No. More like two plumpish raisins in shape and size lol

Definitely over worrying then!

Wait until you feel more comfortable and at ease with him before you have sex. It's fine to have sex with someone at any stage, but if you are so insecure about how your body will be judged you'd be doing yourself a kindness by waiting until you had more of an emotional connection with him - wait until you have the level of intimacy where you can talk about this stuff together.