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Bah humbugs....

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Cottoncandy1983 · 14/12/2025 23:48

I was going to comment on another post but I thought I'd post it like this instead.

I have seen so many posts about how people aren't "feeling" Christmas this year and I think that some people should have a big reality check. People moan that they can't be bothered to get the tree out of the loft " I can't be bothered" or "my ds is a teen now so only wants money and he's taken the magic out of it" or "I resent spending money on presents" or moaning that they are woken up at 4am in the morning because their little one is too excited to sleep. I could go on and on.

I'm sure there are thousands if not millions of people out there that would love to have that feeling of just "can't be bothered" instead of spending the festive season, alone or having just lost someone dear to them. There are are people that are on the streets that would love to have a "loft to get their tree out of", people who are being kicked out of their homes due to no fault of their own.

Some people will never experience the joy of a little one running into their bedroom at 4am in the morning too giddy to sleep because of Santa or having a teenager that deep down, will always be excited for Christmas.

Christmas is what WE make it, WE make the magic of it and fair enough if your not a Christmas person but I think people should make the most of what they have and count themselves very very lucky because one year you might look back on all the wasted Christmases and wish that you had made of an effort while you could.

So merry Christmas to everyone out there, I hope you make the most of this lovely time of year.

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JudgeBread · 15/12/2025 00:05

So no one is ever allowed to have a moan about anything because someone out there doesn't have what they have?

By that logic, how dare you make this post moaning about other people when somewhere out there is someone who would love to have access to Mumsnet so they can make patronising posts about what people should be doing at Christmas, but they can't because their house has been blown away by a tornado and they're living in a shelter with no WiFi.

They're not allowed to complain about that either though because somewhere in deepest Africa a child is starving and has no home or family so they have absolutely no right to moan about their shit circumstances either, they should be grateful that they didn't get blown away too and at least they have some sort of roof over their head.

And on and on until we find the most hard done by person on earth and give them a prize for winning the Shit Olympics 🏅

RedTagAlan · 15/12/2025 00:22

Merry Christmas to you too OP.

We live in a place where Christmas is not really a thing at all, but our DD has put the tree up, and is making more tree decorations with an arts and craft thing her and her pals are into. It's a small thing, but she enjoys it.

Cottoncandy1983 · 15/12/2025 00:23

How dare I????

I am entitled to my opinion and to air it on here just like all the other people that whine and moan about what a bad life they have.

Don't like it, dont read it

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Cottoncandy1983 · 15/12/2025 00:25

RedTagAlan · 15/12/2025 00:22

Merry Christmas to you too OP.

We live in a place where Christmas is not really a thing at all, but our DD has put the tree up, and is making more tree decorations with an arts and craft thing her and her pals are into. It's a small thing, but she enjoys it.

And that is what I'm talking about, making it Ur own and what makes u happy. Merry Christmas xx

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IslaNotFisher · 15/12/2025 02:48

Merry Christmas, OP. In the spirit of the season - who cares if others aren't feeling Christmas? You do you, and all that.

I agree with @JudgeBread though, this framing of "there are people worse off therefore you cannot complain about anything" is such a tired argument that gets trotted out on Mumsnet daily. By that logic, Mumsnet wouldn't even exist because we are all privileged enough to have access to the internet unlike most of the world.

WallaceinAnderland · 15/12/2025 02:54

On the flip side, no one has to do Christmas if they don't want to. You can make the day as low key as you want, you don't have to make the whole month of December and half of November about it. No one is forcing you.

frozendaisy · 15/12/2025 03:08

They are just a handful of posts on the internet, there are millions of households in the UK who do make the most of it.

How many people in real life do you know aren’t making the most of it?

And by your own argument if the posts about bah humbugs wind you up why read them? Why don’t you skip past those posts.

Bougainsillier · 15/12/2025 04:07

And one day you may look back OP and realise you’ve lost your Christmas sparkle, be it from grief, illness, or any of life’s other curveball, and someone saying you should cheer up and make the most of it may sound trite and insulting to you too.

xanthomelana · 15/12/2025 04:14

What anyone else does or thinks about Christmas is absolutely none of my business or concern.

TangoWhiskeyAlphaTango123 · 15/12/2025 04:47

Cottoncandy1983 · 15/12/2025 00:23

How dare I????

I am entitled to my opinion and to air it on here just like all the other people that whine and moan about what a bad life they have.

Don't like it, dont read it

MN doesn’t quite work like that.

I hate Xmas for reasons that are nothing to do with anyone else. You do not get to dictate how others should feel about it FFS!

Cottoncandy1983 · 15/12/2025 13:18

Bougainsillier · 15/12/2025 04:07

And one day you may look back OP and realise you’ve lost your Christmas sparkle, be it from grief, illness, or any of life’s other curveball, and someone saying you should cheer up and make the most of it may sound trite and insulting to you too.

I've had my share of illness and grief thank you very much and that is exactly why I am grateful for every Christmas that I have. Some people should just be a bit more grateful too.

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BDenergy · 15/12/2025 13:26

@Cottoncandy1983you are totally out of order and you have no idea what is going on in people’s lives.

You crack on and please enjoy your Christmas but please butt out on whether you think other people are grateful enough.

Bougainsillier · 15/12/2025 13:36

Cottoncandy1983 · 15/12/2025 13:18

I've had my share of illness and grief thank you very much and that is exactly why I am grateful for every Christmas that I have. Some people should just be a bit more grateful too.

Well aren’t you a superior being.
Your insensitivity astounds me; if you’ve been through hard times yourself you should have slightly more empathy and understanding. Stop and think about your own Christmas spirit OP and instead of being so self righteous, take a moment to think about how others might be finding things just a bit too much.

Cottoncandy1983 · 15/12/2025 13:43

Such wonderful people on here....not

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BauhausOfEliott · 15/12/2025 13:46

Cottoncandy1983 · 15/12/2025 13:18

I've had my share of illness and grief thank you very much and that is exactly why I am grateful for every Christmas that I have. Some people should just be a bit more grateful too.

Oh, get over yourself. I’m glad you like Christmas - I like it too - but nobody has to be grateful for something they didn’t want in the first place.

For example, I would bloody love to be given free tickets to a particular Premier League club, which is 200 miles from my home. But I wouldn’t expect someone who hated football, and who would struggle to afford the train down to London, to be grateful for the same tickets.

People are allowed not to like the same things as you. It doesn’t affect your Christmas if some random stranger doesn’t enjoy it.

BauhausOfEliott · 15/12/2025 13:47

Cottoncandy1983 · 15/12/2025 13:43

Such wonderful people on here....not

For someone who claims to be happy and excited at this time of year, you’re really not giving that impression.

Catpiece · 15/12/2025 14:01

What OP is saying is count your blessings if you’re lucky enough to be able to have a lovely Christmas x

Cottoncandy1983 · 15/12/2025 14:12

Catpiece · 15/12/2025 14:01

What OP is saying is count your blessings if you’re lucky enough to be able to have a lovely Christmas x

Thank you very much xx

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