I’m feeling pretty stressed at the moment and can’t think properly.
I have a full time job (which I really enjoy). Working with people with serious mental health problems, so brings it’s own stresses.
My DH has cancer and is starting treatment soon. He has 6 weeks of treatment and I will be taking him there and back which I want to do. I will take half or a full day off work for that.
DH does not want my sister or my mum to know about the cancer so I can’t explain the additional stress I am under.
My mum has cancer and there is no treatment available. She’s 89. Wants to stay at home. Lives alone. Has carers but eventually will need medical care of some sort. I live 2 hours away and so does my sister (in the other direction).
She is retired and so able to (& wants to) go more often. She is older than me and has taken on the role of ‘care co-ordinator’ so is sending me lists of things I need to do. She is quite bullying- always has been - and I’m finding that hard to deal with now that we’re in more frequent contact.
I do want to help my mum but I have always known that I wouldn’t want to take on a lot of care, if she needed it. We don’t have an easy relationship and I am angry about treatment of me and my DD in the past so I am not doing as much as my sister and don’t want to.
Im going roughly once a week and helping with laundry, food shopping and cooking, cleaning etc. And providing some company.
Ive taken days off work sometimes because I can’t always go at weekends. But I don’t want to keep taking leave either.
I don’t know what I should be doing. But I am exhausted by the stress, I don’t feel I’m doing my job properly.
I have my own health problems which need to be sorted out. I’ll probably need surgery for one, waiting for an appointment to discuss that.
Sorry this is so long- helps to write it down.