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Just an update (for those who care🤣) now I’m a while into leaving my DA relationship

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NeedingASafeSpace · 14/12/2025 18:10

I left a DA relationship kind of recently. It was a struggle at first but since then I’ve just been filled with gratitude and love with having my beautiful children safe and well I a safe environment.
I read the book “why does he do that” and it’s helped me not look back, even once.
I have stopped him having contact with our DS as he used him in a way to control and threaten me in the past and also the night I told him he can take me to court if he wants to see my boy.
since leaving I realised how this man basically SA’d me every night. I couldn’t say no to him or he would act like a child and fall out with me and verbally abuse me for days afterwards about it while still expecting sex at night to almost punish me. I realised a lot. I am loving being with my children knowing we’re all safe. We spend more time together happy and just… safe and normal. I love this for them. I feel awful for ever being with the POS but all I can do is learn from my situation. I am wondering however how soon it’ll be before he draws out of the woodworks asking for contct. I also want to say thank you to everyone on MN who have shared their experiences for giving me a harsh wake up call supporting me. Thank you x

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readingisallowed · 14/12/2025 18:16

I haven't read your thread. But I'm so pleased that you and your children are safe and well.

NeedingASafeSpace · 14/12/2025 18:23

readingisallowed · 14/12/2025 18:16

I haven't read your thread. But I'm so pleased that you and your children are safe and well.

Thanks so much. We really are and I pray it stays this way 🙏🏻 ❤️

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Summerhillsquare · 14/12/2025 20:07

Well done and enjoy a fabulous calm Christmas!

Luddite26 · 14/12/2025 20:14

Well done. It is not easy to get out I am so glad you feel safer and can see the light. I hope you can stay safe and get a break moving forward. And enjoy a peaceful Happy Christmas. I hope you can get any support you need.
I remember leaving my first husband in 1995 and feeling really empowered by the song Some Might Say by Oasis. That was my first recovery period where I was licking my wounds. It's a long road to recovery from such abuse with a lot of stages of recovery. Be kind to yourself love yourself and your children.

Wildchild60s · 14/12/2025 20:17

So proud of you, well done. Hope you have a wonderful Christmas with your precious children

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