How do you know your done having kids?

[Niftymum88]

I’m 37, I have 5 children ages between 20 & 9.
ive always wanted a big family.
but I thought we was done.
ive built up a new business from nothing, our kids are grown, I’ve lost weight and the fittest I’ve been ever.
but he wants to try for a boy.
I love the idea of having another little one, and I have Fays where I’m like let’s do it, but other days I’m thinking I’m absolutely mental don’t do it.
how do you know your just done.
i don’t want to upset my husband by saying no, because I keep changing my mind.
I’ve initially said if I get pregnant before I’m 38 then it’s meant to be but I feel after then I’m pushing it.

When I realised having another child would bring more negatives than positives to my existing children.

We were 2 and done mainly due to my age. We do say if we’d met 10 years earlier we would have had more.
If you want the opinion of someone with no knowledge of your current family dynamic, for me 9/10 years would be too much of an age gap. I assume the older are all 2 ish years apart (depending on any twins/multiples) so another baby in the mix now would be a struggle for me.
Also you mention “trying for a boy” so if I assume all the older are girls, what would happen if number 6 was a girl, or even girl twins?

Your children aren’t grown if the youngest is 9? And I’m sure you don’t need to be told you can’t try just for a particular sex.

I have one of each but after my second I kept all the baby stuff as I wasn’t sure I was done. I struggled a little with my first but loved, pregnancy, birth and parenting with my second!

In the end, once my second one reached age 3, I realised how easy it was becoming (slept through the night, out of nappies, out of buggy etc) I didn’t want to jinx it by having a third. We also have a 3 bed house so they each have their own room and they get on with each other.