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What can I say in my next job interviews

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goingbeforeIloseit · 12/12/2025 13:23

Hi

I started a new job in August. I moved from a job I liked and had been there a few years, but that led to burn out. New job is in same industry but different sector. I am qualified and experienced in this industry.

New job started off ok. There are positives, such as a better work life balance and less pressure. Plus more pay. I like lots of my colleagues.

However, as time has gone on, it’s clear that there are aspects of the job/organisation that I am finding difficult and that are knocking my confidence and making me question my ability and years of my respected experience.

Management is pretty non existent most of the time. When management do briefly make an appearance it’s always negative and oppressive. Staff are treated like we know nothing and everything we do is questionable. We are asked our opinion, but then the reply is always to tell us that our opinion or experience is wrong, even if we are saying something positive.
They want us to work autonomously with very little oversight but then act as though anything we do is wrong and like we don’t know what we are doing.

Most staff are dissatisfied and people moaning and complaining in the office is constant. There is a very them and us attitude between staff and managers and it makes an uncomfortable atmosphere.

Whenever I mention a positive about work I have done, eg “that client left happy when he’s usually upset”. I am shot down by my colleagues. Such as being told what I saw and felt was wrong. Eg “no he wasn’t happy and me and Kate were sceptical about what you saw”. If it was happening with just one person then I would be able to ignore it but it’s everyone.

Often those in senior or management positions will take staffs work that is perfectly acceptable and take over, acting like it’s a big crisis and only they have the expertise to do it. Yet the sane work, the same staff member does, is fine at other times. They talk over you about the work like you are a child. It’s disheartening.

They employed me stating that they wanted me to bring in my experience from the other sector to help make changes and make services better. They sang about supporting progression and what have you. However, they won’t even let long standing staff go on very much needed training, they make excuses. They do not value our input, hard work or professionalism.

There are colleagues and mangers who have been here for years, who think that no one knows what to do except them. Even if they have had no contact with the work or client in question.

They speak about moving forward and creativity in the work, but they will not deviate from the original way of doing things, despite it being the same for decades. Everything is done in a strict and often oppressive way and there is no room for using your judgement.

I know through what colleagues have said that I am not the only one feeling like this.

Today I am in two minds. Do I look for another job or give it more time? Due to the better work life balance and less pressure, I feel reluctant to leave incase where I go I have it worse. Those things are important to me due to my family and experience of burnout.

If I do leave so soon, what am I supposed to say on applications and at interviews as to why I left after this short time? I can’t think of an excuse that doesn’t make me look unreliable or the problem.

Can anyone help me?

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JennyForeigner · 12/12/2025 15:37

What you have written about them claiming to want you to work autonomously but then acting like everything you do is wrong has toxic workplace all over it. Head down, quiet quit and apply elsewhere. You'll think up a narrative that works for you in interviews and is something like that you had held a role that was intense but enjoyable and this position has been a change of pace. Be diplomatic and if they want your skills they won't care about one shorter post on the CV.

Horrorscope · 12/12/2025 15:42

I think you should look for another job. The culture there is poisonous and you will never thrive.

Friendlygingercat · 12/12/2025 16:56

I would look for another job and in the mentime do a bit of !quiet quitting!. Not in the sense of skiving and lumbering your colleagues with work. Rather not inveesting so much of yourself in a workplace that is toxic and where you are not appreciated. Stop trying so hard. Take it from day to day and dont sweat the small stuff. That was how I did it in the last year of local government when I knew I was quittig to go to uni.

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TheDandyLion · 12/12/2025 17:01

If potential new employers ask why you're leaving after a short period of time you can tell them what was initially communicated in the hiring process was quite different from you were led to expect and wasn't a good fit for you.

goingbeforeIloseit · 12/12/2025 18:11

Thanks everyone, you have confirmed what I thought. I should have seen the red flags straight away, on my induction week senior staff kept going on and on about how specialist they were and how no one understood how to do the job because it was soooo specialist. I sat there thinking, it’s not that different to all the other areas in this industry. I wonder if they feel they need to prove their worth. When actually their jobs are pretty secure and no one questioned their ability.

It is a very strange environment, it’s almost like people are putting on a fake smile and gushing about each other, when in reality you can see it written on their face.

I have had jobs where the odd person has been a pain, but never come across a place where the whole culture is negative.

I enjoyed working with my last team and found everyone to be quite genuine and friendly. Although people were struggling and burnt out, there was a supportive atmosphere and culture of respect.

I have just kept my head down here as it felt off straight away. I am lucky that I can work from home most of the time and so avoid the office as much as I can. I just chat on a surface level to those I see.

I have only met my direct manager once in passing and had to introduce myself, despite being the only new employee at that time. She just said we would catch up but I have not seen her since. I am told she is working at home or off sick but it’s been that way for months. Bizzare

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Friendlygingercat · 13/12/2025 03:18

Some people would enjoy having a job where you just drift along in a self directed way without anyone on your back. I know I would. It was like that when I was an academic. My boss and I would meet about every 2 months otherwise I just got on with the set tasks. But then I dont enjoy working in teams.

Batteriesoptional · 13/12/2025 03:36

I have twice left jobs after 6 weeks - makes me sound flakey but this is over 30 year period! On both occasions it was due to culture - permissive attitudes towards bullying and terrible line managers. In the first instance I had had a competing offer so went back to the other company and explained what happened. Luckily they were fine and offered me the job again on a higher salary! The second time was 6 years ago and I didn’t have anything lined up. I was transparent in interviews that I had subsequently as I knew they’d find out from my P45. I was offered a role shortly after and have been there since.

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