Is everyone else’s neighbour totally normal or am I just unlucky?

[NaciGeorgopoulos]

I was talking to a friend who said her neighbour is so considerate that they text before using the drill. Meanwhile my neighbour thinks 7am on a Saturday is the perfect time to start “light renovations”.
It made me wonder whether I’m just cursed with loud neighbours or whether most people secretly deal with this but don’t say anything. I’ve had early morning DIY, random shouting phone calls in the garden and one guy who thinks revving his motorbike counts as a personality.
Part of me wants to believe there are still calm, quiet, reasonable neighbours out there. The other part thinks I should just invest in industrial earplugs and accept my fate.

Mine are lovely, both the attached side and the next people (semi detached house). I’m really sorry yours aren’t 💐

I have a hoarder with bullying tendencies on one side and a lovely family on the other. The hoarder has made everyone’s lives miserable at times.

Pretty much ever since I moved into current home, left neighbour has been horrendous and right neighbours are angels. Luckily the left hand neighbours were renting and moved out last week.

Lovely neighbours both sides but I checked them out carefully before moving in as I had a neighbour from Hell in our last home.

Lovely neighbours here too, we have been deliberately considerate and they reciprocate. We are friends, but not in each other’s business all the time.

My neighbours opposite take their dogs out for a walk every morning 7 days a week at 615 am,and they bark constantly until out of earshot, lovely .

We’ve had some absolute nightmares as neighbours. Fortunately our neighbour next door who moved in over a month ago is amazingly quiet, he’s a single chap in his mid to late 50s and goes about his day. Cracking car too.

Have a new neighbour behind too, lady on her own with a school age child and a toddler. Again, very quiet, most you hear is the toddler chatting away when outside, but that’s it.

Long May they stay, it’s perfect at the moment.

Genuinely wondering if we have the same neighbour.

I can't decide if I prefer the crack of dawn power tools or the constant, very loud coughing/retching all evening which is extremely unpleasant and hasn't let up since he moved in a year ago.

No mine are oddballs. Her partner works 12 hours a day, she stays in bed all day, gets up around 4pm. Let's the dogs out who do nothing but bark and yap (ongoing noise nuisance complaint with local council). Then she comes alive at night time until ridiculous o'clock like now, I am awake because I can hear her banging around like it's day time. They have no consideration for others. I have continuously said I have a 3 year old can you please keep it down at night, they don't care. Their house is a tip, their garden is a mess with recycling all over the garden, overgrown grass etc. They still have 2 pumpkins outside their front door that have turned to mush. She stood in it the other day and instead of picking it up and clearing it away, looked down, looked at her shoe, flicked it off her shoe and walked off. Laziest, scruffiest person i have ever lived next to. Thankfully we are moving house soon and I cannot wait!!

NDN's are great here, but in our first house (terraced) we had two sets of bad neighbours (one after the other) and both lots were irresponsible pet owners. First set were just loud generally but would also have fiery arguments. Second set were just dodgy and fell out with everyone in the village at one time or another - we walked a fine line of keeping the peace but not being walked over.

When a family member was single and had attached neighbours who played loud rock music into the early hours, she would go for a run around 7am and turn the speakers up to full and push them against the wall blaring out classical music and run for an hour. Didn't stop them and it didn't escalate but she felt better!

I love in a very quiet peaceful cul-de-sac.i guess I must be lucky.the place I lived before,all the neighbours were neighbours from hell

Im on a square of 6 houses. 4 of my neighbours are lovely. 1 family are awful - intimidating bullies. The police have been called by others in the street for harassment.

That really sums it up, doesn’t it. Total luck of the draw. You must be so relieved they’ve finally gone, especially if they’d been awful the whole time you’ve lived there. Fingers crossed whoever moves in next doesn’t undo the good neighbour karma you’ve got going on now.

Ugh honestly, they sound like an absolute nightmare. Being woken up in the middle of the night is bad enough, but with a 3 year old as well? I’d be losing my mind. The fact you’ve actually said something to them and they still don’t care says it all really.
The pumpkin story made me laugh and feel gross at the same time — that’s next level laziness. Some people just live in their own bubble and don’t give a toss about anyone else.
Thank god you’re moving soon though. Count down the days and tell yourself this is temporary. Your next neighbours have got to be better… surely

I’m in a semi and found myself attached to a family that only communicated via shouting. All. The. Time.

They then purchased an inflatable hot tub which they located in their tiny garden about 8’ from my back door and terrace and proceeded to hold kids hot tub parties.

After the kids had gone, they would crack open the Prosecco and shout at each other over the noise of the jets long into the night… still only about 8’ from my bedroom window.

I now have the loveliest couple who I hope will stay forever! God forbid they ever think of getting a hot tub 🤣

I've had awful neighbours in the past. The terrace I live in now has lovely people either side of me. However, there is a fabulous woman who lives over the road but she's incapable of speaking at a normal volume. She SHOUTS! I can hear her on the phone. Last night, she popped into next door and I could hear every word she said until about 11.30pm when she went back to her house.

My neighbours are like your friends. Sorry you are unlucky.

Next door neighbours in the 2 flats are lovely ,unfortunately the neighbour in the flat above me is anti-social, I've had to involve council and police.This morning I had to creep out to put my bin outside for collection so has not to disturb him because I knew I would 've got lots of verbal abuse.I also have a neighbour across the road who likes to revv is motorbike at 5.45am.

Can I ask how you checked? I’m desperate to leave our awful neighbours. Barking dogs wearing shouting kids. Revving motorbikes too morning to night every blood weekend

Threads about horrible neighbours always make me want to run down our row (we're four terraced cottages) hugging and kissing mine. Considerate, quiet (except for necessary noise) and always available if you need to borrow something or to take in parcels and feed the cat or put the dog in the garden in case of delayed homecoming. We don't even have parking wars! But we do live in a very small village which I think helps, because everyone knows everyone so there's no hiding behind "I have no idea who's making that dreadful noise at 11pm every Sunday night", because everyone will know!

My whole row of neighbours are lovely, but we have a empty house opposite so could upset the applecart. 😂

I would have said yes, but a couple of years ago our previously lovely next door neighbours on one side had an extension built. They took themselves off on holiday when the foundations went in and decided to tell their builders that they could use our garden for access. When we complained to the builders they told us our neighbours had said they could use it. When we complained again they said our neighbours had told them just to ignore us. Suffice to say that in the absence of an apology from our neighbours we no longer speak to them.

Everyone else in the street is lovely though.

In my first house I had amazing neighbours both sides. In my second had the neighbour from hell- stole my sons bike, music and shouting at 3am (you get the idea). Now in my third home and am end of terrace. Have fab neighbours all I hear is their child running up the stairs in the morning, and that's only once in a while. Takes in my parcels when I'm not here. They are lovely.

I really don't want to tempt fate as the current contingent are mostly OK. Although I'm dreading their Christmas party nights.

Our house is detached and we only have neighbours one side but they seem normal to me! We don’t hear a peep out of them to be honest. We’re probably far more of a nuisance to them because my severely autistic son will play in the garden for hours from March-October and his play can be repetitive. He’s not allowed outside until 9am though and is never out later than 7pm.