Standing in a bar/pub for hours chatting and drinking

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Does anyone else really struggle with doing this? I know it is normal thing to do, but I feel like I'm in the minority of not actually enjoying it at all after the first half an hour. It's fine to begin with, but it just descends into hours of standing in the same place of people getting progressively drunker.

Having to shout because the music and crowd noise is loud, the fact that it feels anti social for some of your group to be sitting while the rest stand so you all end up standing for hours and put the bags/coats on the chairs instead.

I know I sound dramatic. It's because I just came back from a Xmas do and really struggled to join in with the chat as my head was pounding and my voice was hoarse from talking loud 😔 I feel like I'm never myself

No im good at it!

Ha!

If drinking yourself then fine!

Otherwise no.

And even tho I like a drink, since turning about 42 I'd rather sit in a nice restaurant with a bottle of wine chatting nonsense

It’s ok not to enjoy something and to stop doing it.

It’s not for me so I no longer go 🤷🏼‍♀️ easy solution

I’m particularly skilled in this so no problem at all. But I enjoy it, sounds like you don’t. So don’t do it.

I hate it. I don’t drink, never have, and hate the smell of alcohol. I have grown up with alcoholics and don’t have much tolerance for the “let’s get smashed” attitude. So… I always disappear very quickly after showing my face. Or, if I can, don’t go at all (which is easier said than done as there’s obviously an expectation).

I think I must have a really soft voice or something because I really struggle to talk loud enough to make myself heard in noisy places. It becomes a huge effort for me to basically shout and I get tired and give up.

You’re not the only one. I’ve always disliked it even when I was young, although I still did it and acted as if I enjoyed it.

Now I’m older I don’t do the town nights out anymore and it’s great

I'm with you, I don't enjoy it. I have a soft voice and hate raising it to speak. I would happily sit in a restaurant or quieter bar and drink / chat though.

me too

Yep me too, this was the norm for years and enjoyed it but last few years. I just cba with it

I used to love it when I was in my 20s but post children and now getting on a bit, my hearing isn't good enough and since Covid I get anxious in crowds - not enough for it to be debilitating but enough that the experience isn't enjoyable.

I struggle to be heard (soft voice) or to hear others in these situations, so avoid them. Especially at this time of year when serious binge drinking seems to be compulsory on a night out.

I love standing in a pub having a chat NOT a modern bar

I avoid pubs with music like the plague.

i do not stand in one place with my few friends I go to my local that is a traditional pub, attracts people from 18-80 - jobs including tradesmen, solicitors, a pilot a gardener, It people, retail workers, retired people and an undertaker. where I know everyone and move around chatting to different people.

I do not go to noisy bars with wooden flooring and no soft furnishings they are vile, loud and bereft of character and only attract one age group 20s- early 30s I like a mixed environment.

I also find that these sort of places attract groups of young girls who are unable to talk to each other they shout from a foot away, I think because they do not want to listen just talk.

I love local pub culture and have made many friends by going to my local pub

I haven't done this since I was in my early 20's lmao, if I'm going out there'd better be seats or I'm not going 🙃

I struggle if it’s extremely crowded and noisy because my hearing isn’t the best, but provided I can make out the conversation, I’m fine. I’d rather have a table than have to stand, but generally one eventually becomes available.

I remember pubs of the olden days (I'm 61!) where loud music and shouting, and drinking heavily to get completely pissed weren't the thing.

I don't drink much, don't like crowds and loudness in general, so I agree with you, OP. I just don't go to that sort of thing. A restaurant with chairs (!), food and drink is more my kind of thing.

Well, I’m not much younger than you, but I certainly spent my student years getting pissed in loud pubs and clubs in the 80s and 90s. Obviously, there have also, always, been quiet pubs. Just look for an ‘old man’s pub’ type of place. I can think of loads in my hometown. The loudest noise will be pints settling.

I am going to join the ranks of most of the PPs and say that as I've grown older, more achy, and more deaf (well, tinnitus), I prefer somewhere with less background noise and more character these days.

Ironic isn't it? I am now old enough to do whatever I want, but I don't have the energy to do any of it, when I can even remember what it was 🤣

I used to love it esp on single days , now i.struggle

I saw a TikTok the other day which said that throughout childhood / teens, all you want to do is stay up late. As soon as you are old enough to make your own decisions, all you want to do is go to bed 😆

I don’t mind the standing or the noise but I don’t like conversations with new people.
I have what I need friends/family so work or other nights out don’t interest me .

I love going into our local which is busy with a good atmosphere but just people chatting and laughing. I can't stand loud bars or pubs with music blaring where I can't hear myself think, never mind anyone else!

I hate standing in a bar, but I’ll sit and chat in a pub all evening quite happily. I like Wetherspoons because you can hear yourself think!

It depends who you're with and how much you and everyone else is drinking.

A slightly tipsy putting the world to rights session, or a political debate with people of respectfully opposing views, is one of my favourite things.

People who think they're hilarious just because they're drunk, not so much.