Just posting because I’m feeling sad - maybe need some perspective, maybe need someone to feel sad with me!!
It’s my birthday in a few weeks - 3 days before Christmas. My 30th. I work in a pub as a second job and was quite looking forwards to working Saturday 20th - it’s a really social job, I’m so close with the rest of the staff it felt like a great way to celebrate my birthday weekend whilst still getting paid. However they’ve told me no way am I working my 30th birthday weekend - go out and have fun!
Years of experience (12 years to be exact) have taught me that the weekend before Christmas is not the weekend people are free to celebrate, especially with less than 2 weeks notice. Christmas dos, family get together, travelling etc always take priority which is fine and is what it is.
I asked my main friend group if anyone fancied a drink on the 20th to celebrate, of course everyone is already booked with other plans. I asked my two best friends if they’re free, again of course they’re already booked.
So I asked my fiancé if we could go out for a nice date night to celebrate. We never really go out because he has his son every weekend, I work in the pub, so we don’t get out on dates much - I can’t remember the last time we went out just me and him. He’d forgotten to book my actual birthday, the Monday, off work so I thought maybe he’d be up for doing something at the weekend. He said “we can do but I won’t drink I’ll have a few then go pick DS up”
Let me make it clear I have no issue with DS staying here every weekend - this is his home as much as it is mine and I’m marrying his dad. However, I did think for my birthday celebration maybe we could’ve had a night just me and my DP. A few drinks, food, then home for quality time on a weekend night which we never ever get.
I completely understand my DP wants to see his son and I would never expect him not to, but he was more than happy to not have him last Saturday for his football lads night out. We could have him Friday, Saturday day and pick him up again early Sunday. I just thought my DP would’ve wanted to spend some quality time as a couple for my birthday.
I’m just feeling really sad. My twin is being whisked away for a weekend in New York by her DP, and by the looks of it I’ll be sat in the local with DP drinking water and clock watching to pick DS up after an hour. I think I just saw my 30th being a little bit more special and instead I feel like I’m begging for people’s time. I told my DP not to bother we’ll not do anything and now I’m sat in the bath crying so I’m probably the problem now.
I just wish I could’ve worked and that would’ve been that. Just wanted a rant I think.