Whats the best support for imminent bereavement? Especially from DH/DW

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Long story short I suspect my DFil is likely to pass in the near future, and I wondered if people could share what was helpful when they were in similar positions?

I'm currently focusing on supporting DW by practical stuff like taking over all the home running stuff so she's freed up to visit as much as she wants etc, as well obviously just listening to her. It feels like a bomb is going to go off imminently in our life, and I'm worried that when the worst does happening, I'll be really unprepared of how to support. I know it's not something that I can soothe but I'd like to be the most helpful and supportive i can be.

I wondered what people's experience was and the helpful things of how a partner might help

Absolutely stick with the practical stuff. Make sure she has contact details of a funeral director to hand. Do a bit of research on the legal details of what needs to happen following a death. If there are things that still need to be discussed with her father (eg does he want die at home or in a hospice, what funeral preferences does he have etc), then encourage your wife to have those conversations.
Don't be mealy-mouthed about death - you will need to be clear, calm and organised. Have a look at something like Citizens Advice website about what to do when someone dies.

I would just go at her pace. Does she have any siblings?

I wouldn’t panic. Sounds like your instincts are good. Consider suggesting she sees her GP if she is very distressed.