I get SO nervous over everything - even good things

[nervousnellyy]

I find myself getting really intense feelings of nerves over every little thing in my life lately. The smallest thing will have me feeling the level of nerves that used to be reserved for big things like exams and public speaking. I'm really sick of it and I try and I do try and push through it but I feel so fed up of feeling like this. It's no way to live. Is anyone else like this or have any advice? I understand it's probably anxiety and I've tried medication and therapy and it hasn't helped so far.

I work from home and have one internal meeting every morning with my small team of 10 colleagues, who are all lovely. I start dreading this the night before and I rehearse what I'm going to say when it's my time to speak. The whole morning leading up to this meeting I can't concentrate on my job. This maybe TMI but I get a nervous stomach and am going back and forth to the loo. The whole time is a write-off and I end up having to make up the time in the evening. Once a fortnight I have a casual catch-up meeting with my manager. I dread this for about a week. The whole day that I have the meeting I'm again struggling with a nervous stomach and feeling so nervous and on-edge.

I had the hairdressers yesterday. A lovely treat that I book for myself every 6 weeks as when I'm there I do enjoy it. But leading up to it I'm, again, an anxious wreck.

I have an appointment later today from 4-5pm and I'm a nervous wreck and it's ruined my entire Sunday.

I'm soo fed up with it :(

I started feeling very similar to this at the start of my perimenopause. It has improved a bit with HRT and I have some propranolol for public speaking.
it is extremely annoying though and I feel very frustrated at feeling this way as I hadn’t really experienced anxiety before this.
I do find breathing exercises quite useful when it is happening.

I'm exactly the same. I've been like this since childhood. I'm 56 now. It's generalized anxiety. Medication hasn't helped. Guided meditation did work for me. I saw a psychologist via my GP in my 20s. He specifically helped me as I had to give a lecture as part of my PhD. It was amazing and I still can't believe I got through it with almost no anxiety. But you have to continuously work at it. If I had to give another lecture now I would need the treatment again.

Did the psychologist teach you the guided mediation? Or was that something you did separately? What type of psychologist was it? Im asking because my dd also suffers with anxiety.

Escitalopram changed my life! I used to be exactly the same, not any more! Go and see your GP, you don’t have to live like this. Might take a bit of trial and error but worth it in the end.

I've also felt like this since childhood, but I definitely think it's got worse over the last 5ish years. It's so frustrating to live with as I dread the things so much it almost outweighs the joy of doing them. At times I feel like it would be kinder and easier on myself to stop doing things that I dread, but I know I end up enjoying them or them turning out fine in the end.

I've tried sertraline and citalopram before and neither helped but both gave me side effects so I tapered off them. Maybe I need to see if the GP can recommend anything else

Oh god, I am like this now, Im nearly 50, I never used to be like this when I was younger. I can’t even go on holiday anymore as the anxiety about going outweighs the joy ☹️

I am like this and it was at the same level of yours a few years back (panicking over friendly team meetings, rehearsing what I was going to say etc). I found that in that specific instance, deep breathing pre-meeting helped.

It was just sessions with him. He asked me to remember a time when I was happy and relaxed and then visualise myself giving the lecture successfully. I don't know what type of psychologist he was. I think he specialised in guided meditation. Honestly it felt like he had performed a miracle. I was an absolute nervous wreck before treatment.