Is “I don’t talk about that to everyone” a good response to those nosey questions or you backs a lot of questions dont you… better ?

[OrangeCatKitten]

Preparing for the seasonal rudeness of extended family you don’t see often

that ask nosey questions
like have you paid off your morgage yet
i bet you’re earns a lot doesn’t he

why do you have that age gap
did you want more children
Will you have children
you know anything that over steps general politeness

I’m not really looking for a polite reply
just assertive

You ask a lot of question don’t you …

that should read

A policeman wouldn't ask me that.

"Why do you want to know that?" if you feel you need to respond at all.

If you can spend the time with a bowl of crisps in your hand just shove it towards them and say "Crrrisp?" whilst giving them The Look.

Have fun with it. Play nosy bastard question bingo. Don't forget you've also got the head tilt at your disposal.

Just "That's quite a personal question" and silence will do fine; there's not really anywhere to go after that.

I go the other way and overshare in a way that’s total agony for them and makes them never want to ask anything again.

I remember explaining, in detail, my dad’s alcoholic rages to somebody at work who kept bringing up the topic we are NC and wondering why.

It was very uncomfortable explaining about the police turning up at the house, how I used to go to school with concealer for my puffy swollen eyes, and how I chewed the back of my hands to mincemeat worrying about going home that evening. But it was priceless seeing their face and they barely spoke to me after that.

Or maybe … why would I tell you ?

If I said why do you want to know that, I would get a reply of well I’m just interested or concerned

its wouldn’t be enough to make them drop it

I do like the idea of playing with them tho…. Have a bit of fun with it

My mil recently asked me this. "Can I ask you something personal? Is it true that if you have polycyclic ovaries syndrome, that you're highly sexed?"

My reply "Oh Yes. I've always had the higher sex drive in every relationship I've had."

And every opportunity since then, I make comments about how sexy DH is and how horny I am, in front of her. The cheeky cow!

'Oo, I don't know actually/can't remember off the top of my head/ not sure yet. What about you?'

Friendly but flips it back.

😂😂😂 brilliant

Oh goodness - why would you need to know that! Have you seen EastEnders recently.....

Yeah me that would be meet with well I’m only curious then a repeat of the question

we are dealing with next level rudeness here not basic rudeness 😂😂.

Just say - I’m not going to answer that - and something like “you are overstepping”or “that’s a bit invasive / personal”. then change the subject

I think you are overthinking this but then I am quite assertive

You need a warrant if you want me to come in for questioning

"I'd rather not discuss that"

"You're awfully nosey, aren't you"? Said as a question. Leave a big pause. Change subject or walk away. Job done.

‘If you’ll forgive me for not answering that, I’ll forgive you for asking it.’
Not that I’ve ever actually used it!

How about:

"That's quite uncomfortable - how do you know we haven't tried?" (on 'children' questions)
"It works for us" (age gap, earnings)
"I've learned from experience that I prefer not to talk about money, politics or religion when it comes to family christmasses - it makes for a nicer day."

"Hmm, interested or concerned, you say. Such intrusive questions make it feel as if it's not really my welfare you've got at heart." then stop and stare or walk away. You don't owe them anything @OrangeCatKitten .

Thanks all for your tips ended up going for the wow you ask a lot of questions don’t you, I think it’s my default reply and it just came out

which was met with well I’m just interested in you

and then I replied well that’s for me to know …..

was awkward but least I didnt spill any tea, so successful mid say

thanks for giving me a few ideas and laughs

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