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Online bullying

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Charliebradbury · 06/12/2025 23:13

I made a thread last year about a girl in my dd(10) class who was bullying her. I spoke to the school and I hoped it was all sorted. They went back to school in September and it seemed to have stopped. However this last week it has started again.
My dd and this girl are both friends with another girl in their class and the bully doesn't seem to like this. She seems to get really jealous when my dd and this friend do anything together. This weekend they are at a sleepover together and the bully has really taken offense at this. I presume cause she wasnt one of the girls invited. Which as this is at another person's house is obviously nothing to do with my dd.
For the last 3 days this girl has made numerous tik toks calling my dd names and sent messages telling my dd that people hate her. I was told last year that if it happens outside of school then the school can not do anything about it. So I messaged her mum asking if she could get her to remove the tik toks which I thought was a reasonable request. The mum has since sent me numerous messages blaming my dd for her child making these posts. I have ignored and blocked her as she was calling my dd names and I didn't want to engage.
I have emailed the school as it was clearly not dealt with before and my dd has phoned me in tears this evening because of these messages and videos.
I have screenshots and recordings of the messages and videos but what else can I do? Most of the stuff this girl does is under the radar, social exclusion type stuff.
I feel bad because I feel i have made it worse by messaging the girls mum but school said they couldn't do anything about social media posts and I didn't want these videos to follow my daughter around. I have no idea what I'm meant to do. My dd has no social media but friends do and send her screenshots of these tik toks and posts. I'm trying to protect her as much as possible but most of her class has seen these posts at this point.

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Pryceosh1987 · 07/12/2025 01:33

We cannot do anything about peoples opinions but we can change the way we see things and how we react to those messages.

Charliebradbury · 07/12/2025 07:14

Pryceosh1987 · 07/12/2025 01:33

We cannot do anything about peoples opinions but we can change the way we see things and how we react to those messages.

I'm not sure i understand. This isn't a case of someone having a different opinion to my dd its that the other child was making tik toks calling her names and sending messages telling her that everyone hates her. How can I change the way she see that? I can take her phone away but that is just going to isolate her more. My dd is ignoring the messages but that doesn't stop them hurting her.

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ThisLittlePony · 07/12/2025 07:16

If your daughter didn’t have TikTok would she know about the messages? I would have thought you’d need to be older than 10 for it?

Mumsworkneverdone · 07/12/2025 07:16

Hi OP can your daughter not block this girls and reduce social media?

adamduritzvocalchords · 07/12/2025 07:19

Threaten with calling the police? Tell the school again and say if it isn’t addressed you will call the police. They take online bullying seriously

Charliebradbury · 07/12/2025 07:21

She has a phone and other people are sending the tik toks to her on messages. She has no access to tik tok itself as her phone has restricted access to apps but she can obv recieve text messages so people send her screen recordings. Other pupils are also talking about them.
She has blocked the girl, and she doesn't have access to social media herself but her friends do. Yesterday she blocked her but then she sent messages to all the girls at the sleepover telling them how horrible my dd was. I had to convince her to stay at the sleepover and that she wouldnt have been invited if they all hated her. The parent of the girl who's sleepover it was also spoke to the girls about ignoring messages from this girl.

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Charliebradbury · 07/12/2025 07:39

adamduritzvocalchords · 07/12/2025 07:19

Threaten with calling the police? Tell the school again and say if it isn’t addressed you will call the police. They take online bullying seriously

I have emailed the school about the incidents this weekend. Last time they told us that they could do nothing about it as it happened outside of school so they said they couldn't even talk to her about it. But they have got a new headteacher this year so I'm hoping she will have a different view.

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